Así que mis queridos lectores, aunque me gustan otro tipo de historias, esta es una película que he disfrutado varias veces, porque me identifico mucho con ella.
Perdona si te llamo amor (2014)- España (adaptación del libro con el mismo nombre-2007)
Aunque nuestra protagonista Niki, ya debe ser mayor de edad, me encantan varios temas que tratan aquí, pero el principal es la diferencia de edad, ¿Pueden funcionar parejas con marcada diferencia de edad? Acá mi análisis.
English version
What to do in the month of love, watch love movies!
So my dear readers, although I like other kinds of stories, this is a movie that I have enjoyed several times, because I identify with it a lot.
Forgive me if I call you love (2014)- Spain (adaptation of the book with the same name-2007).
Although our protagonist Niki, must be of age by now, I love several themes that they deal with here, but the main one is the age difference, can couples with marked age difference work? Here is my analysis.
So my dear readers, although I like other kinds of stories, this is a movie that I have enjoyed several times, because I identify with it a lot.
Forgive me if I call you love (2014)- Spain (adaptation of the book with the same name-2007).
Although our protagonist Niki, must be of age by now, I love several themes that they deal with here, but the main one is the age difference, can couples with marked age difference work? Here is my analysis.
Niki es una chica de 17 años que se enamora de Alex que ya alcanza los 40 ¡WOW! ¿Será posible que el amor triunfe?
Va a depender de muchos factores. En primer lugar, tenemos el amor adolescente, ¿cómo es? Si recordamos nuestra época de juventud, tendremos anécdotas de amores fugaces, apasionados, impulsivos y vividos de manera explosiva, ¡sin pensar en el mañana!, y eso es producto de la misma inmadurez y dinámica del momento donde somos rebeldes y soñadores.
Ahora, ¿Cómo vemos el amor maduro? Es un amor con calma, compromiso, respeto, independencia y metas mutuas. Cuando pensamos en pareja (o aquellos que ya la tienen), pensamos en compañerismo, confianza, apoyo mutuo, sin idealizar, sino más bien un proceso de negociación y aceptación.
¿Entonces no durarán? Pues, también influyen otras cosas como lo que le puede imprimir cada uno a la relación. Por un lado, la juventud incluye en la pareja: la aventura, jovialidad, actualidad, inocencia puede jugar un punto a favor de la conformación y durabilidad. Por el otro lado, la estabilidad, hábitos, intimidad de compartir varias facetas, conexión, puede ser el punto que tenga la persona de más edad para mantenimiento de la estabilidad.
No es una fórmula mágica o para que salgan corriendo a buscar a esa persona 20 años menor, sino que es importante resaltar y repito siempre en mi área psicológica, que "aunque las parejas tienen que ser a fines para durar, siempre existen muchos factores que pueden influir para que duren o no".
Por ejemplo, si son infieles, o un hombre busca mujeres jóvenes para reafirmar su virilidad, no estamos con personas maduras y probablemente fracase; no es cuestión de edad sino de madurez.
Niki nos demuestra que debemos reconocer el amor y hacer que pase. No es solo idealizarlo o soñarlo, es trabajar por él de tal forma que se vayan construyendo esos lazos que harán duraderos los años por venir en pareja.
Alex nos enseña que, lamentablemente, la sociedad nos va dictando como debemos comportarnos, seguir y hacer las cosas que no ¡escandalicen! a la sociedad y eso nos limita, a tal punto, que preferimos una zona de confort para los demás y no realmente lo que queremos. Cuando maduramos, como que vamos apagando esa capacidad de soñar y nos volvemos más "cuadrados" sin dar paso a alguna ilusión; tienen que ver su caso y después me comentan 😉. Lo que sí les puedo decir, que conozco bastantes caballeros que por conformismo o por comodidad prefieren esa vida a buscar lo que verdaderamente aman y les apasiona.
English version
Teenage Love Vs. Mature Love
Niki is a 17 year old girl who falls in love with Alex who is already in his 40's. WOW! Will it be possible for love to triumph?
It's going to depend on many factors. First of all, we have teenage love, what is it like? If we remember our youth, we will have anecdotes of fleeting loves, passionate, impulsive and lived in an explosive way, without thinking about tomorrow, and that is a product of the same immaturity and dynamics of the moment where we are rebels and dreamers.
Now, how do we see mature love? It is a love with calm, commitment, respect, independence and mutual goals. When we think of a couple (or those who already have one), we think of companionship, trust, mutual support, without idealizing, but rather a process of negotiation and acceptance.
So they won't last? Well, other things also play a role, such as what each one can imprint on the relationship. On the one hand, the youth included in the couple: the adventure, joviality, actuality, innocence can play a point in favor of the conformation and durability. On the other hand, stability, habits, intimacy of sharing various facets, connection, may be the point that the older person has to maintain stability.
It is not a magic formula or for them to run out looking for that person 20 years younger, but it is important to emphasize and I always repeat in my psychological area, that “although couples have to be in order to last, there are always many factors that can influence whether they last or not”.
For example, if they are unfaithful, or a man looks for young women to reaffirm his virility, we are not with mature people and will probably fail.
Niki shows us that we must recognize love and make it happen. It is not just idealizing it or dreaming about it, it is working for it in such a way that it builds those bonds that will make the years to come as a couple last.
Alex teaches us that, unfortunately, society dictates how we should behave, follow and do things that do not scandalize society and that limits us to such an extent that we prefer a comfort zone for others and not really what we want. When we mature, we kind of turn off that ability to dream and we become more “square” without giving way to any illusion; you have to see your case and then tell me 😉. What I can tell you is that I know quite a few gentlemen who, out of conformism or comfort, prefer that life to looking for what they truly love and are passionate about.
Niki is a 17 year old girl who falls in love with Alex who is already in his 40's. WOW! Will it be possible for love to triumph?
It's going to depend on many factors. First of all, we have teenage love, what is it like? If we remember our youth, we will have anecdotes of fleeting loves, passionate, impulsive and lived in an explosive way, without thinking about tomorrow, and that is a product of the same immaturity and dynamics of the moment where we are rebels and dreamers.
Now, how do we see mature love? It is a love with calm, commitment, respect, independence and mutual goals. When we think of a couple (or those who already have one), we think of companionship, trust, mutual support, without idealizing, but rather a process of negotiation and acceptance.
So they won't last? Well, other things also play a role, such as what each one can imprint on the relationship. On the one hand, the youth included in the couple: the adventure, joviality, actuality, innocence can play a point in favor of the conformation and durability. On the other hand, stability, habits, intimacy of sharing various facets, connection, may be the point that the older person has to maintain stability.
It is not a magic formula or for them to run out looking for that person 20 years younger, but it is important to emphasize and I always repeat in my psychological area, that “although couples have to be in order to last, there are always many factors that can influence whether they last or not”.
For example, if they are unfaithful, or a man looks for young women to reaffirm his virility, we are not with mature people and will probably fail.
Niki shows us that we must recognize love and make it happen. It is not just idealizing it or dreaming about it, it is working for it in such a way that it builds those bonds that will make the years to come as a couple last.
Alex teaches us that, unfortunately, society dictates how we should behave, follow and do things that do not scandalize society and that limits us to such an extent that we prefer a comfort zone for others and not really what we want. When we mature, we kind of turn off that ability to dream and we become more “square” without giving way to any illusion; you have to see your case and then tell me 😉. What I can tell you is that I know quite a few gentlemen who, out of conformism or comfort, prefer that life to looking for what they truly love and are passionate about.
La sociedad de ahorita, no es la misma de hace 20 años o quizás como no existían tantas redes, no podemos hacer puntos de comparación; sin embargo, veo como los jóvenes no se dedican a ser jóvenes sino que romantizan la inmadurez e irresponsabilidad de sus actos. Las amigas de Niki son un vivo ejemplo de lo que está mal, lo que no se debe hacer y lo que lamentablemente si nosotros no orientamos a nuestro futuro, vamos a seguir viendo esas situaciones.
Por otro lado, tenemos a los amigos de Alex, quienes tienen "vidas perfectas", con matrimonios perfectos, pero que en el fondo, se nota que también son inmaduros porque lo que no se parece a ellos, simplemente lo desechan sin dar paso a que un hombre pueda enamorarse de otra persona, o que una relación termine. Y esto me trajo mucho a reflexión porque caigo en lo mismo, dejamos de vivir nuestras vidas por lo que pueden decir nuestros amigos y conocidos ¡Todo mal!
Sea cual sea la diferencia de edad, que esto no sea limitante para vivir una historia de amor verdadera y genuina y que dure lo que tenga que durar. En el caso de Niki y Álex también me gustó porque muestra como cada quien tenía su vida y las decisiones que debieron tomar para poder estar juntos.
Un punto que sí me gustaría tocar con la película es la mentira y el engaño, siempre se debe ser honesto entre ambos y con los terceros que pueden salir afectados por esta relación, porque una traición duele y más cuando viene de alguien que le dedicas tu vida por tanto tiempo.
English version
What society dictates
Today's society is not the same as it was 20 years ago or perhaps because there were not so many networks, we cannot make points of comparison; however, I see how young people are not dedicated to being young but rather they romanticize the immaturity and irresponsibility of their actions. Niki's friends are a living example of what is wrong, what should not be done and what unfortunately if we do not guide our future, we will continue to see these situations.
On the other hand, we have Alex's friends, who have “perfect lives”, with perfect marriages, but deep down, you can tell that they are also immature because what does not look like them, they simply discard it without giving way to a man to fall in love with someone else, or for a relationship to end. And this brought me much to reflection because I fall into the same thing, we stop living our lives because of what our friends and acquaintances can say All wrong!
Whatever the age difference, let this not be a limiting factor to live a true and genuine love story and let it last as long as it has to last. In the case of Niki and Alex I also liked it because it shows how everyone had their own life and the decisions they had to make in order to be together.
A point that I would like to touch with the film is the lie and deception, you should always be honest with each other and with third parties that may be affected by this relationship, because a betrayal hurts and more when it comes from someone you dedicate your life for so long.
Today's society is not the same as it was 20 years ago or perhaps because there were not so many networks, we cannot make points of comparison; however, I see how young people are not dedicated to being young but rather they romanticize the immaturity and irresponsibility of their actions. Niki's friends are a living example of what is wrong, what should not be done and what unfortunately if we do not guide our future, we will continue to see these situations.
On the other hand, we have Alex's friends, who have “perfect lives”, with perfect marriages, but deep down, you can tell that they are also immature because what does not look like them, they simply discard it without giving way to a man to fall in love with someone else, or for a relationship to end. And this brought me much to reflection because I fall into the same thing, we stop living our lives because of what our friends and acquaintances can say All wrong!
Whatever the age difference, let this not be a limiting factor to live a true and genuine love story and let it last as long as it has to last. In the case of Niki and Alex I also liked it because it shows how everyone had their own life and the decisions they had to make in order to be together.
A point that I would like to touch with the film is the lie and deception, you should always be honest with each other and with third parties that may be affected by this relationship, because a betrayal hurts and more when it comes from someone you dedicate your life for so long.
Me encantan las películas de amor, este cine español tiene tiempo trayendo tramas que no pasan de moda, es divertida en muchas oportunidades (sobre todo en los hombres maduros con las jóvenes "no se salten esa parte); reflexiva, por lo que dejamos de vivir por seguir la sociedad; la figura de los padres, los roles de cada quién, las rutinas, las enseñanzas; y mucho amor, que es la finalidad de ver una película este febrero ❤️.
Los escenarios son sutiles, al final ¡Hermosos!, y aunque en muchas oportunidades me perdí en la intensidad de Niki (Paloma Bloyd) y la pasividad de Alex (Daniele Liotti), creo que se le puede sacar puntos positivos para su actuación.
No me quiero despedir, diciendo que en su oportunidad dijeron que harían una segunda parte, pero no sé he visto si esa historia siguió. Me gustaría verla para saber si el amor triunfó en el tiempo.
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Final Reflection
I love love movies, this Spanish cinema has time bringing plots that do not go out of fashion, it is fun in many opportunities (especially in mature men with young women “do not skip that part); reflective, for what we stop living by following society; the figure of parents, the roles of each one, routines, teachings; and lots of love, which is the purpose of watching a movie this February ❤️.
The scenarios are subtle, in the end, beautiful, and although many times I got lost in the intensity of Niki (Paloma Bloyd) and the passivity of Alex (Daniele Liotti), I think you can take positive points for his performance.
I don't want to say goodbye, saying that at the time they said they would make a second part, but I don't know if that story continued. I would like to see it to know if love triumphed in time.
I would give it a 7/10.
I love love movies, this Spanish cinema has time bringing plots that do not go out of fashion, it is fun in many opportunities (especially in mature men with young women “do not skip that part); reflective, for what we stop living by following society; the figure of parents, the roles of each one, routines, teachings; and lots of love, which is the purpose of watching a movie this February ❤️.
The scenarios are subtle, in the end, beautiful, and although many times I got lost in the intensity of Niki (Paloma Bloyd) and the passivity of Alex (Daniele Liotti), I think you can take positive points for his performance.
I don't want to say goodbye, saying that at the time they said they would make a second part, but I don't know if that story continued. I would like to see it to know if love triumphed in time.
I would give it a 7/10.
La portada al igual que el separador, los hice en Canvas.
El traductor que usé fue DeepL.
Hasta un próximo encuentro, espero sus comentarios sobre la película 😍.
English version
The photographs have their source.
The cover and the separator were made in Canvas.
The translator I used was DeepL.
Until a next meeting, I look forward to your comments about the film 😍.
The cover and the separator were made in Canvas.
The translator I used was DeepL.
Until a next meeting, I look forward to your comments about the film 😍.
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