The face, our judgement of it, and the insecurity of western face reading culture
Traveling in Turkey and around Europe I've discovered that in some parts of the world people don't smile... lol... well not ALL the time every time you look at them. I learned in time that my need to have someone smile at me every time I look at them, or for me to do the same to them is largely based on a culture of insecurity.
This need to be smiling all the time (or you aren't happy! It's a threat!) is well... a belief system. It's just another western conditioning that clouds our minds and our sound judgement. It stops us having honest and meaningful connections in our lives and in our sphere of influence.
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How do they think of me?
How do they feel according to what their face looks like?
Are they feeling ok?
Am I doing anything wrong?
Oh, it's not me they are angry at, phew, everything is ok.
Are they happy?
Everybody should be happy all the time and be showing it constantly on their faces.
Oh, they have problems, they aren't smiling or making regular face and eye contact when I request it with my constant beckoning - I will now proceed project all of my insecurities onto them and I'll do it in a group, so they will find it very difficult to avoid the projection we put on them, especially if they are a sensitive being that has a need for psychological aloneness in order to preserve their sense of self in this relentless game of faces.
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-- And how much energy it can take for a sensitive person to ward off negative projections! Staying focused and honest within, with the infinite connection to all that is, is the narrow path I walk at times when my strength is low and vultures and wolves come to feast. The best defence for the sensitive is to stay grounded. Nothing can touch the universe, and standing unconditionally as one with it, nothing can touch me. This is easier at some times than others. The process of creating impenetrable and honest psychological defenses is a necessary branch of development of the honest self. --
Let's stay present in feel, in the security of ourselves in the moment, independent and not reliant on getting a good feeling from a desired facial reflection from an acquaintance, friend, relative or work colleague.
Let's really consider how much of this constant hot air and communication with each other through constant face contact is actually honest. Let's consider the effect on our emotional bodies by lieing to each other and ourselves like this constantly.
Let's consider what level of sensitive communication we block by using this 'safe' veneer of communication in order to accommodate our insecurities.
Let us instead be independent in our own energy bodies and from this independence communicate as equals.
Let's consider how much deeper and more sensitive in communication we can go if we first become aware of the bullshit and stop giving it traction and validity in our lives.
Imagine if we find people that are honest with their faces and their feelings and then together we grow as one, content in the ability to stay present in the moment and enjoy each others company simply by presence, honesty and honest sharing and not by administering constant service to each other's insecurities.
I recently had an experience where through touch and then through sharing I developed the ability to go so deep in sensitive communication that when the person left me, everything felt dull and lifeless. Imagine if we could have this colour or life in our daily lives constantly. I discovered that the same level of connection must first be cultured within myself. I must be able to be sensitive to, and feel, my body. I must be able to be sensitive to the earth.
I discovered that I can access this intimacy at any moment and even alone, through self honesty.
The earth is my body. The universe is my body. And through honesty and intimacy with existence I feel as one and experience a constant awareness of myself as the one.
Let's pause for a moment and consider what life would be like if the bullshit didn't exist.
For sure we have to keep up these faces in the world of faces because this is the language of lies that keeps this society up high on the false-sense-of-security-hot-air-reality-in-the-clouds it exists as.
So once we realise what is honesty and begin to practice this honesty, we find that a part of ourselves must be reserved to continued lieing as a performance because we still need to function within this lie. Finding a balance is excruciating, but it must be done.
Nevertheless, we must always find ground again.
Give yourself the reference point of a few key people in your life that you can be unconditionally honest with.
Get to a park or the land or the forest, take your shoes off, ground yourself and focus on your connection with the infinite divine mother. Focus on the feelings in your body and cycle your awareness around and throughout your body. Feel the feelings of the motion of the breath first through the nostrils and then into the back of the mouth and into the throat and to the lungs and belly, hold it there for a moment and feel the life force enter your body, feel the blood soak through your veins, treasure an infinite moment then proceed to breathe the waste air out of the body and first feel it stagnant in your belly or chest then feel it leave through your throat, to the top of your mouth, to your nostrils and pause after a complete exhalation. Now feel the nothingness within and circulate this feeling through your entire awareness and body and mind. Now start again and do this for 12 minutes in complete awareness while you are connected with the earth.
This connection, this is honesty. This is the foundation.
Find honest reactions in your life and create a special place in your inner self to culture the honest self.
Grow this like a seed in fertile ground and tend to it every day.
Let's increase our quality of life and stop the lies.
Soon the spectacle will go pop - are you ready?
In love,
Monty xx
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