For those of you who have ever had a relationship with someone or with the cool language is called courtship, certainly in a relationship has been much to be passed and promised but when a relationship was ended not many who also experienced a difficult name to forget the relationship that had been woven it. Actually that's a less complicated thing, but why for most who experience it hard to forget or cool language is called move on with reason still love and so on.
But keep in mind, difficult to move on it happens because someone is too thinking about the relationship that has ran aground, do not want to behave to do things new, positive activities or occupy themselves with work and daily routine, then what about the not have a job yet? may be able to pass new things in accordance with the skill possessed, which in essence of positive activity and unwittingly have put the problem out of mind.
There are several ways that may be done in order to move on of course in shari'ah, so we realize that during this doing the wrong. The key to it all is to get closer to Allah SWT. The things that can be done are:
First, fill the days of worship and feel sorry for what ever done. Then ask only to Allah SWT to be given the best mate for you and no longer need to be involved in a case called courtship. Worshiping is a good way to calm down and dampen the emotional feeling inside.
Second, keep yourself busy with things that are positive and helpful to you and others such as reading the Qur'an or teaching children to study. Because the beneficial will never be wasted, anyone who occupies himself with a worthwhile thing means they are preoccupied with things that are not in vain.
Third, emigrate from the former environment. This means we must stay away from the environment that once was part of the environment. For example places or collections that had been visited during the courtship dating realize if the environment is not good or where you ever sin to Allah SWT. This will make it easier for someone to forget about it.
Fourth, believing that the former girlfriend is not worthy or not the best to be with you in other words is called not match with you. But that does not mean he is a friend who should be shunned. Keep talking to greet the silaturrahmi rope fellow servants of Allah SWT.
Fifth, filling free time with useful activities such as exercising. In addition to healthful exercise is also useful to remove the hormones that make us happy and happy after doing so.
Sixth, re-focus on hobbies that may have been abandoned. By doing the things we love will certainly keep us from fikikan about the former. Who knows if your hobby can make money, you not only can move on but can also move up.
Seventh, focus on getting married or trying to get married if you've found a matching partner. The trick is enough with short ta'aruf then married and halalkan with kabul permit in front of all.
