[flails] yes. This. I also think it has something to do with that weird mentality some people have of being right at all costs and thus needing everything to be black and white becuse if you're not right then you're wrong and apparently it's more important to be right than...I don't know? I went through a phase of trying to understand people through storytelling but I've come to a point where I think I'll just tell whatever stories I find because I just don't get people XD
This NEED to be right is what always scares me away from American and English speaking culture, its all brain, not enough heart.
Some seem to think that the heart is what cuses all the problems because having emotional responses to things apparently precludes you from being able to logically and rationally deal with it. I kind of like to pretend there's room for a full range of stuff to happen while dealing with a problem, not entirely emotional, not trying hard to pretend to be a Vulcan ;D
But yes, I'm with you, that need to be right can be scary especially when it comes at a cost of learning something new or fixing something that's actually causing problems.