I have faith in love ...

That's why I've always tried.

We should not abuse our luck because we are believing that the love we currently have is safe.

I am very clear that personally, I always take care of my partner, because just as he decided to be with me 47 years ago, he can also decide to leave my side, because he does not feel that love is reciprocal.

That being said...

Personally, a crisis in the middle of the relationship one wants to give everything to recover the relationship and the other has no interest in it. That's when one says: it's not here!!!, this kind of situation hurts, and a lot, and that's when it's really up to us to decide for ourselves.

Without reciprocity there is no relationship.

And it is in those moments of conflict, when one realizes that he did not choose well, the partner (partner). Couples are to support each other and more in difficult moments, where it is really known as "beating the chocolate", that is, "who is who".

These are difficult emotional processes to go through. With help and therapy, at least you try to get out of the hole.

Undoubtedly, the greatest act of self-love is to learn to say: I've come this far. In no way can you allow something or someone to drag you into self-forgetfulness, to disintegrate you as if your value were negotiable.

It is essential to understand that walking away is not an act of cowardice, it is a cathedral-sized truth: it is pure courage.

When you withdraw from what destroys you, you are not running away, you are returning to yourself. When you decide to let go of what leads you to the abyss, you are choosing to be true to yourself. Because, in my view of things, no one deserves the price of your inner peace or the power to become someone you don't recognize.

Self-love is not only taking care of ourselves, it is rescuing us when we get lost. It's looking at ourselves in the mirror and knowing that the decision to walk away is, in the end, the greatest act of respect for who we are.

I think that if in the couple's relationship, it gets to the point of "I'm confused and/or, it's that "I need space for myself", you have to walk away because it doesn't make sense to commit to someone and then go with that.

Emotional responsibility begins with one and extends to the couple.

I also think that the generational leap (age difference) is a topic that I will delve into in another post, it is very controversial when it comes to love as a couple, because when we are very young we usually see love from passion, from those irrepressible feelings, many times without seeing beyond our noses. Of course, it all depends on the emotional maturity of each one.

It will always be better to go with the truth and speak clearly.

Janitze 🌹

Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia

Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva

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