-Jean Jacques Rousseau
In every job there are positive and negative things and they vary from job to job.
But it often happens, while working, that there are some awkward moments, where you feel strange or moments that are embarrassing.
If I look back and remember the different jobs I have had, some of those moments come to my mind, I don't know if the word is embarrassing, but they were very uncomfortable, not only because of the situation but also because of the person who generated those moments.
Thinking back I can remember three moments that stand out the most.
One of them was when I was teaching computer classes for seniors.
Most of my classes were at home, in a specially prepared classroom. But I kept three of my students at home.
One of them was an older married couple. First I gave lessons to the man, who just wanted to learn about the internet, images and things like that. Then I gave lessons to her, who, being a sales manager in a big company, needed to know advanced things like very advanced Excel.
Her husband, he was 80 years old at that time and let's say he was looking too much, but not only looking, but saying things, which made me quite uncomfortable.
Of course he didn't do it in front of his wife. He would say things like what a mysterious look or what nice legs you have. The tone in which he said it made me very uncomfortable.
He had that look... daring. But, luckily, that's as far as it went.
The second totally uncomfortable moment was when I arrived in Spain, in the first job I had. I had a Muslim colleague. I have no idea why many people think I have the features of a Muslim woman, it must be because of my very dark eyes.
The fact is that this colleague, without further ado, started asking me if I lived alone, if I lived far away and that kind of questions.
This made me really scared, as I didn't know anyone here. But I know how to take care of myself and with ignorance this person walked away.
My intuition told me to stay away. I tried not to meet this person in terms of schedules, as I could decide when to do my work.
It was not only uncomfortable but dangerous, I know why I say that. Believe me.
The third opportunity or embarrassing moment happened in my second job, here in Spain.
I was working as a salesman and I had many colleagues, most of them very nice, responsible and great people to work with.
But... but there was one, a friend of the manager, who had recently arrived in city, whose behaviour left a lot to be desired.
Let's say he used the job to sell things, not very healthy, not healthy at all. But on top of that his intention was ... let's say to conquer the women colleagues at work. I say conquer to use a mild term.
Well, one day while I was working in a village, he was the one who came to pick me up in the car. I had never experienced such a complicated situation.
I am serious when I work, very serious, but this person didn't care.
His insinuations were out of all proper behaviour. And his words left something to be desired.
I think it was my withering look that said I'll burn you if you touch me. And that's what I think was what cut that ugly situation short. My attitude. But inside I was so bad, anguished and afraid. I didn't show it, my attitude was always firm.
Life often presents us with these situations, it's up to us how we deal with them.
As soon as I read the topic I remembered all these things that happened to me and why not share them, it can help others. Thank you @galenkp for that.
I wish you all a very good weekend, great greetings and see you next time.
Amonet.
Used translator Deepl.com free version.
Hola 99 espero estés bien, pasando para apoyarte
Thank you very very much Miguel!❤️
Para mí es gusto ver tu contenido, feliz día.
Thank you!!!🤗
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Thank you!!!
What an uncomfortable situation you had to live with that man, luckily he hasn't gone past insinuations.Hello dear friend @avdesing good afternoon
It is incredible what they have to go through in their jobs because they are women, harassment is always present, good thing you knew how to avoid this Muslim man and nothing would ever happen
It bothers me a lot when people, men in general, take advantage of the situation and want to get something with their co-workers, luckily you have been able to get the necessary space and keep it in its place.
Without a doubt, these would not have been easy situations to face, so I appreciate that you let us know about these incredible experiences.
Have a beautiful afternoon
It wasn't easy, but I tried to be calm and not show fear and that attitude helped me a lot. Thank you for always being there @jlufer 🤗
Certainly very uncomfortable situations provoked by people either very miserable or just plain stupid, and certainly cowardly. Very well resolved by you; not everyone would have dealt with them so well. A big hug @avdesign
In life I had to learn, to put limits to what I don't like. Sometimes these situations happen and not only to me but to many women. It is important to say no.
Thank you very much @enraizar ✨
There are people who do not dare to set limits and it is a very big mistake. On the contrary, when the aggressor sees that there is opposition he will leave the woman alone and not the other way around. When there is already a relationship of power, with aggressions, then it is when it becomes complicated to set limits, since the aggressor believes that the assaulted person is his property (besides feeding his ego) and he will not let her go. I'll let you get on with your business... best regards @avdesign
It is true, this situation is more difficult, unless the woman reacts and can assert herself.
Thank you very much! Have a great day!
Nobody is out today, and who would have thought a few months ago, I'm preparing something for Hive. 😂
I hope you are well, I say this because of your last loss, that of your aunt. Have a great Saturday
I'll be out in a little while!!! hahaha
Today it's been a month since my aunt passed away, I'm fine, calm.
👌🤗
Good thing that 80 year old man didn't dare to go any further, I don't know how it comes out in translation but that's what you call a dirty old man, slimeball (viejo verde, baboso).
On the other hand, it did make me want to see your eyes, with much respect 😊
As you rightly say it was a "viejo verde" just like that!!!!
They are very dark browns and on top of that I wear black eyeliner hahaha
What a shame that this happened to you @avdesing and you had to have a bad time, luckily it was just that, a bad time
It's in the past and I learned a lot, that's the important thing! Thank you very much @miprimerconcurso 😀
Mmm... What if I give them a peck? 🦉
These situations are experienced by many women, men of all ages think they own them and can tell them and do whatever they want just because women are pretty. But they were really horrible and scary situations, it's very uncomfortable and the worst thing is that the other person doesn't care until you throw the fangs and they stop bothering haha
Good thing it didn't happen 😢
I'm not going to generalise, but a lot of men do that. Not all of them. Just be attentive and have attitude, that saves us!
Thanks Yami!❤️