We've all have experienced love. It comes in many forms. We can love our children, parents, partners, friends... They say that is never enough love. But what if this love becomes a possessive nature, where healthy boundaries are cleared? In such a case, can we still talk about good love, love, which is never enough? Does not change everything and become cramped?
But what does it mean to love unconditionally?
In order to unconditionally love others, we need to learn first to unconditionally love ourselves. We can not, of course, have other things with a healthy measure of proximity if we fail to establish it first. We often forget about this part of love and we do not devote special attention to it. However, this is a major reason for dissatisfaction and bad relations.
Take a moment and ask yourself. Do you like yourself? Do you accept things such as they are? Do you know how to admit your mistakes and still love yourself? Do you feel less valuable than others? If you answered the last question with YES, then you can be sure that you devote too little attention to yourself, and it is time to direct all the love that you are trying to give or get from outside, and fill yourself with unconditional love, which is accepted by you exactly as you are and restore your self-esteem and personal strength. Only when you become self-confident in yourself and you will not be thrown out of the track by any external criticism; then you will be able to give unconditional love to the world and people around you. Until then, finding love outside of you is only a way through which you try to fill some inner void that you feel.
Unconditional love is the one that leaves people around us with whom we have contacts and are, in one way or another, a part of our lives that are what they are. We let the people express their opinions, even if it is different from ours. We don't cultivate expectations for people, how they should be to us and we don't burden them with us. We honestly wish them well and we don't have the need for eternal judgment and for finding faults. We let them live and we are aware that we are responsible for our own happiness. We can create a healthy distance and don't push people and we aren't jealous of them. We know how to respect ourselves and others. And yet we could make our list longer and longer, but I think these are some basic guidelines that lead to unconditional love.
We can ask ourself how can I let more unconditional love into my life?
We can repeat affirmations by which we slowly change a pattern that holds us in the fist, and prevents us from knowing to unconditionally love.
Try to put in as much compassion, understanding and love as possible in relationships. Forget your selfish, egoistic expectations. Of course, this does not mean that you let others walk for you, while you are unconditionally accepting them. Where it is necessary to draw clear boundaries, do so, otherwise, you will suffer. Just make sure that you don't become hostile and always try to find in people, who you don't get along, good qualities and take them as they are, which of course means you don't have to be comfortable at all costs. Whoever is mature enough will also receive criticism and will do everything to improve his relationship. But whoever is not capable, do not take anything to heart.
Follow your inner feelings as they are always the best signpost and live to be happy. If you know how to enter as many unconditional love as possible in your life, the world around you will take on such colors and support you with your energies.
And if you still don't know how to get as much unconditional love as you need, you can simply adopt a house pet or two, which are the best teachers of giving love unconditionally.
Good reading! :))
intersting post and food photography...
Love can be only unconditional, or is not a love.
For some of us, is that just logical. But not all are that fortunate.