It seems to be the cool thing these days, To play victim. To argue with people on who has it "worse." Really?
Why is it so cool to be damaged these days?
I get it, We all go through hardships. I've gone through a lot of brutal experiences myself. But I don't let it stop me from working towards the things that I want from life.
I don't let it bring me down. And I don't "brag" about my bad life experiences as if they were something to be proud of.
Everyone Struggles, Not Just You!
Everyone has had SOMETHING bad happen to them. Small things, Big things. All of our lives suck if you think about it.
To think that you deserve more, And are better than everyone else because your life is hard. That is messed up.
I love the quote: "Life Isn't Fair, Make It Fair!"
We can make things fair. The universe doesn't give a crap about us! Nothing is "planned" or set up, so everyone gets equal opportunities. But many of us were born in places where we can make it fair.
Everyone can spend all day complaining if they wanted to. I'm sure many very successful people have something they could complain about if they wanted to.
Sometimes people are in the right place at the right time, they win the "lottery, " or they get hit by a car. It doesn't mean that everyone is "out to get you" if you are getting the short end of the stick.
It Distracts us from Solving problems
When we focus on everything that is wrong, We sometimes fail to see the solution right in front of our faces, But when we keep our head up and are actively looking for opportunities to change our lives, Things begin to change.
Lately, I've been beating myself up because I feel like I'm not independent enough. Then I realized that maybe taking the plunge and pruchasing a car, May help with those feelings. So Now I'm saving for a car. It was that easy. Purchasing a car was something I forgot about and kept over looking, But because I was looking for the opportunity to make the change, I found it.
Be Grateful
When you want more, You can ask for it. Many people will give you what you want when you simply ask. Then it's also important to be grateful for the things that you do have. We have so much in our lives; We often forget how lucky we are. Most of us get to eat every day; We have hobbies and fun stuff we get to do. Be thankful for all the little things. These days it seems like we demand everything from everyone else, But we aren't willing to provide value in return. Try and think about what you want, Then think about what you can do to provide value so you can get what you want. Everything is given and take. If you aren't willing to give, You can't expect to take.
People Don't want to help you
Another thing I keep seeing these days, Is all those defeated, Angry people who are feeling sorry for themselves often talk about how no one is willing to help them.
Are you more likely to help someone who will then help themselves? Or help someone who will constantly need help indefinitely?
People like to help others especially when they will work their butt off to then help themselves. When you help people who are just struggling, But you can help them onto their feet so they can further change their own life, You are more likely to feel you made a difference, Rather than someone who you helped, Who ends up staying at rock bottom indefinitely.
When people feel like they've made a difference. They are more likely to contribute more.
So What the Hell?!
For those of you playing the sympathy card, Why? Sure you may get some attention for it. But in the long run, what do you hope to gain from it? When you work your butt off, but occasionally need help for whatever reason. People will likely help you. But when you sit and pout and expect people to feel sorry for you. You are scaring away a lot of high-quality people out there.
We all have problems, and we all struggle. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. But don't' allow yourself to become a victim. You are better than that!
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Seeking Sympathy makes you look weak and you'll just end up losing reputation in the eyes of people.
So true! People don't like that.
I don't get it either. Life is not always fair, but I think it's important to stay positive and keep working toward our goals.. and not make excuses, you make great points!
Exactly! When it's not fair, Decide what you'd give up to "make it fair". Then do it!
Congratulations on taking the plunge and getting a car. I'm surprised you got along without one. I guess in big cities people don't really buy cars though, maybe thats the case.. Yes, you are fully right too. Helping someone who really needs it, and who uses your help and puts themselves in a better spot.. is a good feeling, a really good feeling. Then sometimes misjudgement or just caring too much leads you to helping someone who abuses your help, or becomes reliant on it. That doesn't feel good. Just have to become a better judge with time, and learn from the mistakes! Thanks for sharing
I don't live in a HUGE city, But yeah it's been a bit tough. I haven't gotten the car yet, But I'm saving. I'm also really focused on it.
So true many people abuse help these days and then that person who helped is forced to make a tough decision .
pity party is a great way to keep yourself down that's for sure
Exactly!
Im 80% disabled and I focus on my Abilities rather than my disabilities.
Good Post
Thank you
i folow you pls folow me
Very nice friend. Thank you for this.
Thank you
This is a very wise post. Thanks for sharing)
Thanks :)
This was just what I needed, thank you for sharing
Thank you I'm glad it helped!
No matter the problem am facing , am always grateful and postive minded, because i become what i think.
So true! I'm glad you think that way, It will help you a lot in the future
Beautiful and inspiring post , thank you for the share and i also followed for updates
Hardship is indeed relative. I just try to take everything one step at a time, break up my goals into smaller achievements and be thankful for each step I take.
Without the hard times you don't appreciate the good ones. So I am just as thankful for hardship. It's all sides of the same coin.
Thanks for sharing. <3
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Love this post! The day I stopped victimizing myself, I regained control of my life. We give too much importance to the negative side of things but really, theres something positive about each situation and its our task to find the good instead of focusing on the bad. You said it all! Being grateful is so important. There are millions of people on this planet that dont get to eat and dont even have a roof under their heads. We have all of this and still find reasons to complain.. :(
Thanks for sharing this inspirational post :) @kaylinart xoxo
Everyone Struggles, Not Just You!. So true. <3
Very true... it's draining to be around someone who is in the victim mentality. I enjoyed reading this!
In a world full of victim mentality and blame. Just get the fuck over it and be responsible for yourself! LOL I need to order your "I don't give a shit" book and start coloring. You are definitely right about people stop wanting to help you though, there are too many people out there that legit need help to deal with someone whining that they aren't as privileged as they feel like they should be.
I love it <3 it's all about change, it might be hard at first ,messy in the middle but gorgeous at the end, I just wrote an article about how to take your life to the next level which follows the same ideas and concepts you presented!
https://steemit.com/life/@fancybrothers/take-your-life-to-the-next-level
Good post, 👍👍👍 @kaylinart
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Would you sell a leg for 1 Million? No? Great, you are a millionair because you have two legs worth 2 million!
Be grateful and love yourself.
Very good post.
nice Post
Great and inspiring post!
Sympathy-beggars are toxic. Keep your distance from them and don't let them drain your energy.
I could not agree more with this post.
Must ask.......What part of the world are you in where everyone moans? 😳😀
Your words are so true, thank you.
yea right we Stop feeling sorry for ourselves and contemplating mistakes the only time we should look into your past is to see how far we've come
loved your post
Nice. I think beeing grateful is the key of happines. I follow and up you.
Owning our stuff isn't easy . It is necessary though if we are to stop living in a problem and then move to living in solutions .
in those days people are so angry with them self, in my country, they want to help you if you need something. In the main time if they know you are up he is down, He wants to beat you, it's not way you did something to him, it's they dont want to se you going forward.
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Be strong , everyone wants to see us at our weakest point @kaulinart