Alas nor do I, if one wishes to 'be' positive in outlook, albeit it is going to happen when there are values involved.
Perhaps you could infer how one can be detached, when it seems an attachment to detachment-or at least the thought of it, occurs? Are these relationships void in any way subsequently?
Attachment with family is usually different according to potential social bonds formed in early childhood.
Pain appears a composite of necessary duality, for survival (that I do not experience in opposite).
No and no.
I don't seek detachment, rather less pain & hassle, and there is no reason for me to build void relationships.