I once read something like "love (and sex) is wasted on the young" and in a way that's right. When we start with this feelings and acting on them (be they romantic or sexual) we are in a strange stage. Either headstrong "I know what I want and what I do is always right" or timid and searching "What shall I do? What is expected? What will people think of me?". Sometimes these two stages change rapidly ;)
Though I had read books like "Our bodies ourselves" and "make it happy" I still couldn't transfer this theoretical knowledge into my life. Dealing with feelings is so difficult in your youth, you are so easily overwhelmed.
It takes time and experience to learn how to deal with such situations, how to act, when to think and when to just feel. And, I have to admit, to raise your standards ;)
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HaHa, "wasted on the young", that gives me a laugh.
If we can put this not as waste but as experience-material like the crooked clay bowl or the rough polished table top or the somewhat colourless picture, the experienced sexuality and its retrospective is also always connected with knowing a little better from now on where something is still missing, where something was too much, etc. The sexual life lives itself practically. I agree with those two stages which just show immaturity. It's okay to be a starter. I can now smile at my starter times.
Have you found the man you would put in the described category? If yes, what else did you learn? If I may ask...