I have been happily married for 17 years. My best advice is “trust is everything”. My wife and I allow each other the freedom to do things without being monitored or checked up on. She has time with the girls and I have time with the guys. You need to respect the freedom you are given. That means no strip clubs, cheating, etc. You need to honor her gift of freedom to you so the marriage is never seen as stifling or limiting. I would also suggest coming up with a common goal that you both are passionate about and go after it together. Last July my wife and I ran with the bulls in Pamplona Spain.
Then in September we went white water rafting in Costa Rica.
On Thanksgiving we planned an elaborate feast we made together and shared with friends. Marriage can actually be an adventure that is exciting. I know this to be true because mine is. Good luck to you and your wife as you start your unique journey together.
Dear @clayrawlings
Thank you for your amazing and inspiring comment. 17 years seem to be quite a long time.
That is indeed good advice. The only issue Im facing is the fact that my partner grew up in environment of distrust and even 5 years being together doesnt seem to be helping much.
I already spoke to her number of times and underlined that her lack of trust will only build my distrust towards her. I hope sooner than later I will make her understand, that trust cannot be just one way street.
Oh wow. That sounds like a real adventure :)
Thank you for those kind words :)
Yours
Piotr