Really well written and thought out article. We spend our lives in a cycle of trying to make others happy while trying to feel good about ourselves. In trying to win approval a person may act in a way that goes against their true self, trapping themselves in a mental cage of misery. We determine value from others. Our parents, peers, co-workers, etc. all influence what we think of ourselves. There is a need to please others over taking care of ourselves which is sometimes wrong thinking. If you aren't happy with yourself then you can't live a happy life.