Thank you for this post @petruska13. The change of the routine is very insightful. Please explain to me the "not today" rule.
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Thank you for this post @petruska13. The change of the routine is very insightful. Please explain to me the "not today" rule.
Hi there,
When an addict makes a commitment to stop drinking or drugging it very often appears as a huge mountain he has to climb. In many cases the problems seem so great that they take on insurmountable proportions. An example, a very South African one, may be: "You mean I will never be able to have a beer with my braai?" May seem trivial to a non-drinker but to the alcoholic it becomes a veritable mountain. Therefore we apply the "not today" rule. I will not take a drink today. Tomorrow lies in God's hands. Tomorrow he re-affirms his vow, I will not drink (or drug) today. The days stretch into weeks, the weeks into years but we always re-affirm every day -Not today. As time goes by the insurmountable does not appear so extreme anymore and the alcoholic later realises that he can have a braai, go to a dance and enjoy himself/herself without their drug of choice. That is what is meant by the "Not today" rule. Hope this helps.
Yes thank you for explaining.
It is my pleasure.
Thank you for explaining, I thought I did comment on your answer. I just shared this yesterday with my son. He also has an alcohol problem.
It's probably me getting confused :)