We see them all the time; on the side walk, at work, in class, on the train, and in the store. Cute girls are everywhere. And we know how to talk to none of them! Well… that’s not true is it? We just can’t seem to bring ourselves to go up and introduce ourselves. Because while the rest of the world sees eye candy walking down the street we see the future and it usually ends with us walking away embarrassed with a giant red “rejected” stamped on our forehead. Simply put we lack the self confidence. Unfortunately I can’t give you confidence and I can’t promise you won’t get rejected because at the end of the day I’m just a guy typing words on a keyboard but I do promise to try to relieve your anxiety and try to get you out of your own head because when it comes to dating more often than not you are your own worst enemy and women are pleasant to talk to.
Let’s do one of my favorites. The girl in the coffee shop. Ready?
You enter a café (for whatever reason) and go to order a beverage from the barista. While waiting for your drink you look over yonder and spy a girl you find attractive
Now you can patiently wait for your drink and get on with your day like you usually do... OR you can actually talk to this girl and see if you have a shot. Once you have your drink you need two things. You'll need a complement and a topic of conversation that doesn't have to do with specifically her. So for the complement the more specific you are the better but you need to have a reason behind it. Saying "I like your shoes" when you know nothing about shoes just make the complement sound fake. If you really can't think of anything just walking up and saying "Excuse me ma’am. I'm sorry but I saw you and thought you looked very pretty and just wanted to say hi" is all you will need. After all who doesn't like being called attractive?
Okay guys I know it’s fun to imagine it sometimes but we're not James Bond and we don't need to be. You don't need anything particularly clever to sweep her off her feet. Just a genuine complement will do. As a matter of fact it works better because most women can sense when a guy is trying too hard.
So now you've got her attention
Most women will be very flattered. The fact that you went out of your way to complement her is a complement all its own and she will most likely flash you a stunning smile and thank you for it. For some women if you complemented her physically (Like calling her pretty), they might seem almost confused by the gesture. It’s not necessarily that they don’t appreciate what you said they may just be more of a external thinker or not as comfortable about talking about themselves right off the bat with a stranger. BUT THAT"S OK. Because you already have something else to talk about. Perhaps she is working on a laptop and you can ask her what she is working on or ask her about her drink and if she is a usual customer there and ask if you may sit down. The biggest advantage about talking in person has over the internet is you have a whole world around you to take inspiration from to chat about. If you get nervous, admitting that being around pretty girls makes you nervous will not only make her feel good about herself but you will also feel a little bit better yourself by releasing stress and worry of this burden you were keeping secret (Being nervous). Congratulations! That was the hard part
So hopefully all goes well and you chat her up for a bit.
Go ahead and ask if she would be interested in seeing you again later and if she does get her number. If she doesn't then she is going to politely and quietly decline and you get to of had a lovely conversation and the opportunity to stare at a really pretty girl without her calling you a creep. Keep in mind as well that she has her own reasons for being there. If you're having a conversation and she's looking at her laptop screen or just not paying any interest in you... she's not interested and is try not to be obviously rude about it so it's best to just say goodbye and walk away. This complement and an outside topic of conversation is the one-two combo that should work for most chance face to face encounters with women.
And if you read this and still think none of this is for you then be sure to stay tuned for my internet dating and dating app guide.
So go ahead and give me thoughts, opinions, and/or questions you may have.
Ladies feel free to put add in any other tips you might have. Or let me know if you think I'm full of crap. I'd enjoy the discussion
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