It's amazing how many anarchists talk past people instead of with them. We were all statists once, and it's easy to forget our own challenges we had understanding all of this.
Most people do value anarchism, since we all value consent every day. In any other part of our lives, if consent is withdrawn, we see a problem. When it comes to the State's actions, does our consent all of sudden become worthless?
Asking people to be consistent can certainly be a challenge, but there's no use in making it more challenging than it needs to be by being angry and aggressive with people who don't understand us.