I spend a lot of time thinking about #1 (not judging or blaming). It can be really difficult to listen to someone who seems extremely limited in her worldview and not start to think "Wow, this person is so limited. I wonder what it's like to live with all those assumptions." But at the same time, I hate egotism and the idea of comparing "myself" with other "selves" because THAT seems so petty and limited.
#6, confrontation, is tricky. It's just hard to do with finesse. Some people respond with so much emotion when I disagree with them, as if it's a personal thing.
That part about medium arousal is fascinating. I'd never heard that, but it makes intuitive sense.
Thanks for the article!