The Apaches didn't have military leaders in the traditional sense. They had warriors with voluntary followings. Geronimo was the most famous example. They led by example and other warriors fell in behind them.
For this reason, they were the most difficult nation for the US government to defeat. Every time an Apache military leader was killed, more simply rose up organically from the ranks.
This is a much more secure structure for society. They outlasted every other native nation in the face of US aggression because of their non-hierarchical relationships.
They were finally defeated when the leaders were corrupted and cynicism demoralized them.
Excellent point