I respect your point of view, and you are right in some points you explained in your post, but , personally I think maybe is a little extremist. In my opinion, it's like a professor of mine used to say : " With children you have to use both hands, the right (corrections, order, in others words the hard hand) and the left hand ( love, care, the soft hand) . If you use one of them too much the children will be an astray one".
Balance is the key.