The Devious Weasel's Arsenal of Argumentation Tactics

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Quiet down you, I know that's a raccoon. Anyways I felt inspired to make this general callout post after some recent arguments that got me thinking about how people argue. Specifically the tactics people use when they feel compelled to defend the indefensible.

That's a tough spot to be in, because you can't just defend it with argument as you would any idea which stands on its own merits. But for whatever reason you're married to the idea. Because it's part of your identity, it's emotionally important to you or whatever else.

It's much like being the mother of a boy accused of murder. No matter how much the evidence against him stacks up, you'll defend him to the very last. "He would never do such a thing" you'd wail, "he's a good boy. A gentle, sweet boy".

Or like living in a podunk backwater town, but still defending it when people talk trash because it's where you grew up. Same goes for defending a sports team you love even if they can't seem to win a game for years on end.

In situations like that, when somebody is emotionally chained at the ankle to something they know they can't defend in argument, that they make use of a predictable set of tactics designed to disrupt argument. To deflect, confuse, stifle and shut it down.

#1: "Stop bullying me"

Bullying has a very particular definition. Verbal bullying is putting someone down in order to get pleasure from making them upset. This is meaningfully different from when your intention is simply to change somebody's mind about a topic they feel strongly about, and they become unavoidably upset. Likewise with the most common variant:

#2: Stop trolling me".

Trolling is an attempt to get a rise out of someone for the enjoyment of watching their reaction. Neither trolling nor bullying is a fair description of an honest question or argument that concerns an inherently touchy topic.

From their "poor me" mindset, perhaps it really does look like you simply set out to be a jerk and upset them for your own sadistic enjoyment. But the fact of the matter is, often times you cannot disagree with people about certain topics without upsetting them, even though that wasn't your intention.

You might say "But I didn't use any bad words, nor did my statements include any personal attacks". But from their perspective, if they feel attacked, then you attacked them, and that must have been what you set out to do. That brings me to number three:

#3: "Why are you attacking me?"

Again, all you have to do in order to "attack" somebody is dispute something they are sensitive about. As an example, a Redditor in a sub I frequent is struggling with a father who's in an MLM (a legal pyramid scheme) and had a big blow up with him about it.

His father felt personally attacked when his son explained why he feels MLMs are inherently fraudulent and not the golden opportunity they present themselves as. There is no room here to disagree with his father without also unavoidably insulting him, because the implication will be that his father is a foolish person who fell for a scam.

Similarly, if somebody believes that souls exist, and that nobody truly dies but simply leaves their body behind, it may be how they have coped with the deaths of loved ones. There is no gentle, respectful way to dispute that belief because of what it implies about the cherished people they have lost.

Anything except total agreement with their unsupported beliefs will effectively be the same as telling them that their loved ones are lost forever and that they have lied to themselves in order to recover from that trauma. It simply can't be done without seriously ruffling some feathers.

But they put you into that position by holding an unsupported belief that they require you to agree with. Is that fair? Is it fair to go through life with the expectation that everybody you meet affirm beliefs that are emotionally important to you, but empirically unsupportable? Is disagreement with such beliefs really the same as a deliberate attempt to offend? That brings me to number four:

#4: "You're being very insulting"

Another variation on the theme, "insult" can mean anything. An actual insult is a personal attack simply meant to be hurtful. But people in a vulnerable position in an argument will often interpret calmly stated disagreement as an insult, because of the implication of saying they're wrong: That they are stupid, that they are gullible, etc.

But is it reasonable to prohibit people from disputing certain types of claim when they sincerely think it's false, just because it will unavoidably hurt the feelings of people who dearly wish for those claims to be true? Is it reasonable to interpret simple disagreement, in polite language, as a personal attack? That brings me to number five:

#5: "You're a bigot!"

This one applies only if you're judging a group of people because of inborn qualities they are powerless to change, such as race or sexuality. But if you're judging people for choices they have made, such as belonging to a particular religion or joining an MLM, that's entirely valid.

If we cannot judge people for their choices, then there is no room in the world for judgement at all. Some certainly try to live that way, but it breaks down when one considers how harmful certain kinds of choices can be for humanity.

#6: "You're prejudiced!"

This, too, gets a lot of play. Because people who identify with a religion or MLM see how effective accusations of racism are at shutting people up, and want some of that power for themselves. It's the primary weapon of social justice for example and shows no sign of losing power.

However, prejudice is "pre-judgement". It's forming an opinion about a group before you've really been exposed to it and come to understand it.

If you have ample exposure to that group (having grown up in a devoutly Protestant environment, attending a fundamentalist middle school and so forth) then it isn't pre-judgement. It's just plain judgement, which we must be free to do or we can make no statements at all about anything which include positive or negative evaluation.

#7: "That's an ad hominem"

This is one of the fallacies that immediately comes to the mind of anybody who took an introductory debate or logic class in highschool and only remembered this one term from it. If you do lose your temper and become deliberately insulting, for shame.

But at the same time, ad hominem does not mean "whoever first insults loses the argument". Ad hominem is when you substitute insults instead of argument. If you present a valid argument in an insulting way, it's rude and will likely undermine your efforts to change minds, but it does not qualify as an ad hom.

There's more (always) but these cover the basics, and mostly belong to a single family of tactics: Pearl clutching. "I'm offended, therefore you did something wrong". But of course anybody can decide to be offended at any time for any reason. It does not guarantee any belief or organization immunity from critical evaluation.

#8. Exaggeration Strategy

If you want to turn people against somebody you are ideologically opposed to, either take a statement of theirs out of context or paraphrase it in a deliberately exaggerated manner calculated to cause outrage.

This also works with actions; you can take something they’ve done and distort/magnify it to make it more heinous, so long as there is at least some small shred of truth in the accusation. Then you tell as wide an audience as possible about (your version of) the statements or actions.

The people you deceive this way will only be motivated to participate in collective violence or harassment against the target if they are ideologically similar to you, otherwise the statement you chose won’t offend them. In this sense, the ones who react as you intend are self-selecting.

These people, upon discovering you deceived them into carrying out the group violence or harassment, would normally be angry with you. Except that their discovery of your deceit takes place in the context of an ideological conflict. They must choose either to side with you, or the enemy they were manipulated into attacking.

They will not side with the enemy, even though he/she has been victimized, because of tribalism. Depending on how entrenched and embittered they are, they will be intensely unreceptive to accepting that they were the ‘bad guy’ and that the member of the enemy ‘tribe’ was the victim. Every fiber of their being will resist that framing. They would rather forget it occurred than acknowledge any wrongdoing on their part, or even on yours. They may even devise some interpretation of events where their actions were justified in spite of the deceit.

The other factor is, when it comes down to it, people will reliably excuse and forgive wrongdoing of someone from their own tribe if the intention of it was to bring harm to someone from an ideologically opposed tribe. They will rationalize it as having been for a good cause, the same reasoning behind ‘lying for Jesus’.

This effectively constitutes a blank check to incite mob action against individuals from an enemy group based on a deliberate misrepresentation of their statements or actions, because usually by the time the people you’ve tricked discover it, the damage will already be done and none of them will feel any desire to punish you.

Closely related is the strategy where during a debate, the opponent wishes you to cross a line and say something indefensible but you won’t go to that extreme on your own. So they do it for you by paraphrasing something you said a moment earlier with subtle changes which put it over the line, hoping you won’t notice. If you don’t comment on it, they interpret that as your tacit endorsement of their misrepresentation of your position.

There's more (always) but these cover the basics, and mostly belong to a single family of tactics: Pearl clutching. "I'm offended, therefore you did something wrong". But of course anybody can decide to be offended at any time for any reason. It does not guarantee any belief or organization immunity from critical evaluation.


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people will never admit that they are wrong. such stubborn people waste their and others energy . i try not to involve myself in an argument with such people.

This is the primary weapon for social justice. Hooliganism can not be as good a profession, just because of hooliganism but parents are in danger. Those who are honest, never give any reason for religion. The argument can not be done by everyone and not everyone. Socialization can not save everyone. This article is about the reality of the current society. You are really awesome

Well... it's their life so why should we care.
If they want to defend originally false truth let them do it. We have other things to do... Like Sex, Nutella and rockNroll.

But they spread their ideas to others until people who think like they do have all the political power, and shape national policy.

Oh, well... I haven't thought about that possibility.
But there are always other ambassadors who spread right ideas to the public. So they counter each other.
Since we can't change anything we rather just enjoy the life. And maybe take care of people that we can actually reach.

This is what most will resort to. I read once about two-gun Crawley writing something similar.

Loved to read this one, people always think they are right even if they aren't, and when they know they are wrong they defend themselves by arguments, deviating the speech, you gave a good example above, even if the child has committed a murder, the mother of that child will always say that he is innocent

Often when someone feels threatened and are unable to articulate themselves they throw a tantrum (like a toddler) and that’s when we see most of your examples manifested. I really enjoyed reading this post of yours, thanks for sharing.

I should be able to voice my opinion without having to care for the consequences.. If one person feels offended, that's his headache.. if everyone feels offended, then I have probably said something offensive I shouldn't have.

Stays up all night n Cute but will fight you

Reason i can relate to a raccoon.... Wait those dark circles as well

And of course from all the things I think bullying is the worst of all. We focus so much on our differences, and that is creating, I think, a lot of chaos and negativity and bullying in the world. And I think if everybody focused on what we all have in common - which is - we all want to be happy.

"I'm offended, therefore you did something wrong"

The world is so filled with this. People, groups, families, countries go to war for this kind of nonsense.

Man, just drop it. If you got offended, well, I am pretty sure you are not going to die from it. Just walk away from the jerk. If this is possible for you, hell, just do it.

Life is beautiful enough, for you to forget these things.

If it's a racoon talking then I will listen.
You know that racoons are really badass, I watched Guardians of the galaxy.

There are so many things that people don't realise. They feel like they are just having fun but they don't know how he/she feels. Bullying also known as a source of suicide; i have heard many people attempting to kill themselves for being bullied, losing their self-confidence, etc. Similarly, trolling, insulting, mentally attacking, these all are something that should be stopped. Knowingly or unknowingly people have these situation once in their lifetime which we should fight out, raise voice but if we wont be able to do that then anything can happen.

Well I’ve always found the “I’ll start shoutig and speak a lot louder than you do since I can’t defend my argument in any other way” quite funny. They just repeat an argument that is already proved to be wrong most of the times. It’s like talking to a very loud wall.

Those who invalidate reason ought seriously to consider whether they argue against reason with or without reason.

I had a boss who likes playing the 'you are insulting me' and 'ad hominem' cards. Whenever we do not reach a common ground on something and I raise the points with him, he will ask if am questioning his intelligence and capability, which implies am insulting him. Then, he'll leave the issue at hand and focus on attacking the person involve.

After working with him for 3 months, I felt I wasn't given the room to explore my thinking and be creative, so I shut down and resigned. I hate people who are like that.

Indeed, no paycheck is worth that misery.

That should be the best decision you ever made.

Trying to defend in a tactical manner is the only way you can prove yourself to be right even when you are far away from reality. Its generally ego of a person that comes in his way that stop him from realising or saying the truth because he doesn't want to be proven wrong. He can even end up fighting for the wrong cause. Such egoistic people do exist.

It's so frustrating trying to argue with some people. Some times they are too stupid to realize their argument sucks. Other times as you laid out they are personally invested in their position and will not change their mind regardless of the amount of evidence you present.

I generally try to avoid getting into lengthy arguments on the internet. Once I realize the other side is being unreasonable I usually end the conversation. It just ends up becoming a waste of time. Of course this usually results in the other person declaring victory.....

Honestly funny enough that you post about this now. Kinda what South Park went over this last season in regards to particular people voting for a particular person. Not wanting to get political, but basically even if THEY now think they did the wrong thing, they won't admit and defend it. I think it only gets worse when they are attacked.

You forgot the people who end disagreements with stupid statements that had nothing to do with the disagreement in the beginning. Like how natural law trumps all attempts at keeping guns in the hands of the people, or how you don't understand god's law, or I'm a christian, or a muslim or a jew, and you don't understand where I am coming from to end disagreements, Some people just like wearing their blinders and being led around by the nose.

@alexbeyman,
Dude you got nice explanation for all these instruments that used to start arguments! Somehow I also use few too :D

Cheers~

A real humiliation takes less than a personal attack. Argument can not be a solution, but in many places it can not be without argument. The issue of arguement in our present society is very serious. Someone might argue arguments, and one can win for honesty. Your writing on arguement was different. But it was very good. A lot of things have been learned.

That's a tough spot to be in, because you can't just defend it with argument as you would any idea which stands on its own merits. But for whatever reason you're married to the idea. Because it's part of your identity, it's emotionally important to you or whatever else.

wow briliant writing for arguement. i am impressed. all father's can't do this. all father's are not a honesst. ao many father's have they are lying to save their childrens. this is not good. very bad for our scocity. this one is very well said, peopl's are never die, die just their body.

Really, thats a great writing and nice article. just awesome post. thank's for @talatawan...
Upvote you brother..

when the cook spoils the food he doesn't agree he did, same is the case here we try to defend ourselves by arguments and much more. its human nature

That a great writing content And really a good argument Thanks for sharing this with us keep it up

Get the ladder and go on top of the maze walls.
There you would be at vantage point and see what is around you.
That'll determine your next move Hero.
Wtf is that punitive custom?
What is that guy doing with his little potruding thing to Hero's ass?
Or i'm just over thinking things lol..
Who else noticed that?

You seem to be commenting under the wrong article.

This is obviously a great article.We talk each other with logic.
Don't argument each other.I appreciate your great writing.
It is an educative value for us.
Thanks
@resteem,upvote & follow done.

Interesting post, I really like the animal world, thank you for sharing...

That is exactly what happens... These are all illogical accusations in a debate .. But in the end the fallacies debacle anyhow..BTW Nice explanation

I like your post.Thanks for sharing brother.

This post very interesting to me.Nice to know you @alexbeyman.

nice post

inimitable writing sir. very interesting post.

this is the primary weapon for social justice. Hooliganism can not be as good a profession, just because of hooliganism but parents are in danger. Those who are honest, never give any reason for religion. The argument can not be done by everyone and not everyone. Socialization can not save everyone. This article is about the reality of the current society. You are really awesome

Loved to read this one, people always think they are right even if they aren't, and when they know they are wrong they defend themselves by arguments, deviating the speech, you gave a good example above, even if the child has committed a murder, the mother of that child will always say that he is innocent

Beautiful photography

really, thats a great writing and nice article. just awesome post. thank's for @alexbeyman.

Some times i think things could be more than they are. We could see more than we see and hear more than we hear.

I always feel there are more we have not comprehended and even at times i wonder if all this is even real.

Anyway i think it's depends on a persons point of view and perspective

this is life, which full of twists and turns, not always straight, that all for spice life in being better. nothing is justified if there is no mistake...

It's the istrument for controlling the emotion.

Sometimes people are much like Steem sorry Clam.