Well perhaps not everything, but it is a lot.
Recently I have needed to change my attitude towards a certain situation and it has made a huge difference. Just approaching the same situation from a different angle has radically altered the ensuing interactions and personal comfort levels.
It turned out to actually not be that difficult to accomplish.
I was a matter of stepping back taking a long hard dispassionate look at things and trying to re-approach the situation from a different perspective. But looking at the situation with new eyes and devising a more palatable approach, that wasn't so markedly different from the original, has made a huge impact.
Is seems so easy for us to adopt an adversarial stance in some of our interactions, especially when stakes are high. When we are in adversarial mode its easy to adopt a negative outlook, take a dim view and find fault.
None of these is productive.
By negotiating with ourselves and finding a way to lower the stakes internally it becomes easier to adopt a more unified and cooperative stance rather than an adversarial stance.
When we are in fault finding mode we have actually decide that whatever the other person does has no merit. We nit-pick at the smallest and stupidest of perceived discrepancies. Essentially we wish to make the person over in our own image and likeness. We may never end up vocalizing it but essentially in our thoughts we wish to force the other party to be more like us by internally bashing and bludgeoning their every act in our minds.
This hurts us.
As it festers it may hurt them but ultimately we heap coals upon or own heads and the damage to ourselves is by far the greatest. Friction and frustrations increase.
By mentally lowering the stakes we become less invested in the outcome being exactly as we envisage and leave room for others views, visions and inputs to the shape the end result. We immediately start to slip into a more accommodating, accepting and cooperative gear.
attitude and honesty are the most valuable in the world..
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I also believe in the power of positive thinking. Have you ever read Napoleon Hill?
Hello @gavvet, I totally agree with your thoughts. Indeed, attitudes change our mind and then thoughts. If we can change some negative thought to positive one, then after It will do more than 02 weeks automatically made positive attitude for our life.
Yep... I know that's harder decision and harder way to go further. But if you can follow much better you'll finally get best result of your life. I have big disappoint with you @gavvet. I feel like that,you forgotten to add value to your true followers. I don't know why. Finally I saw only you were add value to fellow steemians, last December. Time was gone very speedy. Our life time have only limited time. I think you'll make best attitude again for make your life better and others also.
Past time I saw you were missed big contribution commentary. Ok will do your best. Don't mind I don't beg for rewards. I consider only your steemit journey with fellow steemians. Thanks
God bless you.
Oh nice info about attitude. If someone don't like your attitude to change your attitude. I my thought.
I go with you attitude Is everything cause one without an attitude is really having some to deal with or ease it will affect him or her in future
Yes, attitude is something, a behaviour that can change our thinking on our daily life, if we can develop a positive attitude we will be able to do things better.
Cheers @gavvet, keep developing positivity.
i wont change my attitude for anyone 😍😍
The only disability in your life is a bad attitude… [Courtesy]
Your thoughts are clear, and your argument is well laid out.. Your logic can't be faulted.
However, there is a need for a lot of self-control and discipline in order to achieve goal such as this. I'm still a work in progress too.
@gavvet the attitude in which we decided to take in certain situations is the most important to achieve the desired objective. But much more important is to have a good attitude to the adversities that may arise in the process, it may hurt the self-esteem, but finally seinte a great satisfaction
Thank you so much for posting
I wish you a great day
Yeah by just changing our attitude and mindset for any situation changes the result.. we should have always positive attitude and positive thinking for every situation..
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Changing our attitude completely changes the environment or how people are directed towards us, even in any activity we are in! The attitude and the desire to move forward is what differentiates us in some way from the others
Our attitude to every situation matters, like I've been able to confirm this. As a student, the moment I see some questions, I immediately term them as difficult and eventually might not even be able to solve them correctly because I already thought them to be difficult as opposed to any question I tag simple and easy.....
Our attitude really matters...
I can totally relate to that, although I cannot say I am entirely successful :D