The ant and the grasshopper; who is selfish? The person who gives no help or the person who expects help after doing nothing for themselves.
Self sufficiency is the least selfish thing you can do, because you minimise your burden on others. Of course just my opinion.
If charity is given too easily, then it becomes an expectation, a predjudice of low expectations. Which can be the most devastating to a population (i.e. our indigenous population in Australia). More money will not fix it, but perhaps a culture of self sufficiency will, but we have forgotten how to do that.
The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide. Him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him because he did not need it. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Oh okay... This post wasn't really about selfishness or people expecting help... It was about the behavior of when money is involved.
Thanks for the comment.
I wasnt tryin to be critical. If we talk about money changing behaviour, we kind of are talkin about selfishness and expectation indirectly. Sorry if you felt I was having a go, I wasn't. I just think that it is the expectations of people and the self that ultimately dictates ones behavior, the money is the catalyst for how we change.
I liked your post. Oh, my comment was more in regards to the self sufficiency part.