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It difficult sticking to personal goals while being in a relationship. Its so much easier to cave for the piece of cake, or ordering that pizza when you have somebody to hide your guilt with.
I have been through plenty of experiences in my life, i can't wait for more, one thing I have noticed is my routine when and when outside of a relationship. I tend to be more focused and goal driven when I'm single. Why? I've thought this out pretty deeply. I believe for me, it may be due to boredom. There's too much time in the day for little oh me. So if I'm gonna use it all, I optimize it by creating goals to work toward, to repeat, to grow. Is it impossible to do this in a relationship you may ask? Of course! I haven't been able to do it yet, that's probably because I haven't learned how to do it alone.
What should you do if you're having trouble focusing on your goals inside a relationship?
I believe these are some helpful tips to work toward that side of the spectrum.
Make reminders to read multiple times a day. Do it while you draining your sea monster.
Talk openly to your partner about your goals and how they could help you.
Be relentless. If you truly are focused on that part of your life, if its important, I don't think you'll have a problem.
Don't let it affect your relationship. Don't let your relationship affect your goals.
There needs to be balance between life, so share your time in different aspects of your life.
What if you just got dumped?
Everybody has their methods man. I like to share mine, because they work nicely for me, so why not share em right? I become a lazy goon after a break up. I eat like crap, I skip obligations, I stay up late, I do everything I want to fucking do. Then I straighten up the next day, real quick. Works for me folks, after that its maintenance. THINK ABOUT IT.
We are the programmers of our bodies! You can consciously create a subconscious pattern that your body will undergo after enough repetition. Not ONLY your body, but your mind as well. Stop moping around and get the fuck back up if you have some heart break. Look around and ground yourself, realize your life continues, this weird illusion you're a part of continues, you will still be mystified in the future, you will still smile, you will still live.
So get on with it, get to your own moon like its the only thing you breath for.
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Will smith made a really cool video about how a relationship isn't two becoming one. Its two choosing to walk along side each other in life's journey. Will also spoke about how to not make your partner responsible for your happiness. Don't show up to each other with empty cups. Instead choose to arrive with your cup full, then spend time together enjoying life together. Cool video, I found it to be a nice metaphor.
Will inspired me to write this post. I made it because I had the exact same beliefs as Will, but instead of cups I used wells of energy. I really enjoyed his expression.