hmmm this is damn serious, well it depends on individual understanding of relationship, a guy that beats a lady for what ever means is not mature to be called a guy, irrespective of the scenerio, what makes you a mature guy is your ability to control yourself in the mist of challenges and scene like this without falling to assault.
many people lack the meaning and understanding of love and relationship, as a man, your fiance or wife is not a surbodinate or inferior to you in any mean, she is your friend, yourself and your helpmeet, assaulting her means assaulting yourself.
women may seems weak and powerless on the physical, but they are the most stronger and powerful from the insight, you value and cherish her power, you gain from her, but if you abuse, neglect, ignore and disgrace her, you will receive her rod sooner or later.
@tojukaka, I really appreciate you making this post which enable me to air-out my views, thanks