Everything I've read by you indicates you are honest, reasonable, and intelligent, which makes me suspicious of your claim to be a feminist. Andrea Dworkin was a feminist that advocated castration and invagination of all males at birth, and I doubt that's what you mean by feminist.
If you mean that sexes are different, and that's a good thing, but doesn't mean that one should be enslaved by the other, then I would call you egalitarian. Do you really endorse Andrea Dworkin?
The mind boggles.
Anyway, as I don't think you are that kind of feminist, I would point out that you can judge a man by the enemies he has, and I don't mean that in a sexist way. It's just the way it was said by the person I'm quoting, and it's no less true for women.
The enemies you have earned are a credit to you. Their attacks are endorsements.
Wear them as badges of honor, because they are.
Thanks!