Has it happened to you that you feel that one day you touch heaven with your partner? where there is only the word "love" in everything they do, you feel that you can not live, or move forward, because you miss it or you miss it a lot, you need to see yourself talking and spending hours and hours just looking at yourself, but there are days of days that both they declare war, and the "take and give" begins, and it seems that they get into a circle that gives and turns without stopping, has it happened to you? Well, welcome and welcome to the university of life, where this matter of love and the coexistence of a couple is part of the pensum.
1st knowledge
You must take into account that you and your partner are two people full of feelings, emotions, with a very powerful mind, a few days is elevated joy (according to situations that may be happening in the life of each), other days may you walk sad (in the same way, for situations that may be presenting to you), other people live in a very agitated way and suffer from something called "stress", which is nothing more than an accumulation of tension in the body (for a long time work, worries among others), causing your body to manifest (even if you try to hide it) in ways that you do not even realize (example: seriousness, discomfort, sensitivity, anger, diseases in the body), quickly the first person to will realize that something happens to you will be your partner, it is logical they see each other, they talk every day, they coexist and they know each other, try not to hide anything from them, besides that we are very bad lying to the person who knows every inch of our body (up to the way of looking), talk and comment what happens, (sometimes you can prevent a discussion of couples from this point), because the anger that the person downloads sometimes is not even by some action of the person who you love, but it is something that you drag from the day you lived.
2nd Knowledge
Most of the discussions are given as a result of misunderstandings, disagreements, understand that your partner as well as has many things in common also has other parts that do not, which is the opposite, that they really are is to complement the other, example: I I am an impatient person, I want everything fast, but my partner is the opposite. He is patient and measures everything before doing it, his patience can sometimes annoy me, and my impatience can bother her, there is a key, the day we understand that one is the complement of the other, we will accept those differences and they will serve us to continue fighting and to get ahead in life (here we would avoid another discussion from the beginning).
3rd Knowledge
The day came when they agreed on negative emotions, made a short circuit and began to discuss what to do, work should be done prior to this, as well as when you plan what to do? In case there may be an earthquake, or a fire, you know where the fire extinguisher is, where it should run, the same should be planned and discussed with your partner if you discuss what to do ?, the worst mistake is trying to solve Something or reach agreements when both are altered, now if you previously talk with your partner and says, "When this annoying, try to be the opposite, find a way to content me, dancing, talking, cooking this dish of food that I love, find me our photos where it is evident that we are in favor of love and not war ", and vice versa the other person must give instructions of what to do when they are on a red alert, in many cases it is always one of the two that loads a lot rage stored up, (as I sometimes comment not even on the person with whom you are), but it is the person who is with you at that time, the body will seek to drain that discomfort and for that reason will attack for anything with the objective vo exploit, (do not connect with his annoyance, not that he stopped loving you, is simply going through an inconvenience, here is where we make life the vow of love "in the good and bad I will be with you".
4th Knowledge
Both are a minefield, you more than anyone else know where the mines are that explode your partner, why do you walk and step there ?, walk with care, while those values of annoyance, pride, arrogance begin to fall, two fundamental things in a relationship, the first: do not make a decision when you are upset, most in the middle of a problem decide to separate, divorce, leave home, no longer see, but really this is not a decision made from the reason, but from a rise temporary emotional values, to take this decision a week again asking forgiveness and asking to return because he acted and said things he did not think right, it is best to calm down and being neutral to talk to see if it is correct and will help such a decision , but that is an agreement of both, because if the other party is in disagreement should review new options, seek professional help that makes you see options that both do not see by having the mind clouded by the discussion The second does not promise when you are happy, just as you can not make decisions with anger, the same applies when you are very happy because happiness alters the joy and even madness says and promises, logical that when you normalize your emotional values He makes us remember the things he said without thinking well, and he reasons them.
5th knowledge
The logical thing is (think, analyze and act), the common denominator is that couples apply this rule upside down, then when they see what they did wrong analyze and finally think that they were done to avoid going through a situation like this, they are necessary discussions as long as they are healthy within the parameters of love, because there is no way for you to conform to your partner without knowing what bothers you, what makes you happy, what changes your mood, discussions should be seen as a way of learning, because that is what they are in the university of love, just in this important matter, then the children come and it will be another post of insurance that I will have to write to them, for now live, be very careful, you lady do not bother if he annoyed because he has not eaten, thank God because there are thousands of women who want that and do not have someone like that, you sir thank you worry when you have not arrived home and it is late, thousands of men do not count Not a guardian who would give her life to see her partner happy and safe.
There are no perfect couples, but those who love each other, the best way to graduate in this university, is studying, making mistakes and listening to teachers, which is not that they are better than you, but have passed through this university, have experience and they want to help you, so that you and your partner can one day graduate and with honors.
Text: Arturo Adames