Change is the end result of all true learning. ~ Leo Buscaglia
Many years ago, I had a day of reflection and and was wondered "WHY" people (including myself) don't want to change... from old beliefs, old ideologies, behaviors, attitude, health, financial, relationships etc etc.... and concluded that by not changing constantly, it creates a formula for an unhappy life.
As people, we are so comfortable with our own "Habits" and "Daily Routines" that when we tend to get "stuck" with old beliefs causing no growth to happen for many years or even decades until it's to late.
So I asked myself, "Why be normal, a normal life is absolutely boring".... and decided and make an effort everyday to change.Β
If your miserable and your LIFE SUCKS... we have the power to change RIGHT NOW. Shut that inner voice off, they are just past thoughts and old programming.Β
Don't let circumstances, events, people and expereiences from the past dictate who you are today. True happiness come from within by learning, doing, or creating new things... one can find true inner peace and happiness by doing this.
We have a CHOICE to change, why not do it now. Everyone of us has the ability to become who we always wanted to be, our minds have UNLIMITED POTENTIAL.
Forget your past failures, loose your old bad stories.... it does not exist anymore and let's start moving forward. Β It's not that hard to change, it's just a CHOICE that we must make right now.
Hope this message helps or even motivated a few Steemians that "Change" is good, at the end of the day... we are all in this together in this thing called life.Β
Change your life until you will be happy, thank keep doing what you do!
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Keep on stackin π€
Change is good just like changing a dipper is good.. or getting your diper changed
still in babysitting mode of 6 kids haha
That is a great analogy haha
Great post! Core of the problem is that people became slaves of their own mind. They wake up in the morning, mind is turned on and off they go being slave of the mind. If they sit down only for 10 minutes and listen all the thought from mind, maybe they will realize they are not their mind thoughts. Until that moment of realisation happen, nothing will change in their life.
Yes, it always started with the mind. They must deprogram themselves, e an show them the way but it's up for them to change :)
post a great can be useful can be used as experience .semoga be a friend who can help me in order to like you ..... to dream and hope in reach. like @yooraa need dukugan friend. greetings esteem.
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Hi...I think the reason most people don't want to change is based on fear. Foe example, if you have a good job...one that you're satisfied with...why not keep it. Jobs are hard to come by. Yes, i know there's a possibility that you may get a better job if you try. Change is the only thing that we can depend on. That's good. It takes a lot of people out of misery. Good post. Thanks for writing it.
That makes lots of sense, people love security and comfort. They tend to stay the same but that's what average people do, I don't want to be average haha. Awesome comment :)
I reposted this to FaceBook. People don't want to change based on fear and not wanting to get out of their comfort zone.
Most of the problems for people are caused by the resistance to change, I think. People have a hard time accepting changes in their lives and they keep pondering over the past while adapting for a better future.
Many religions, cultures and traditionals are keeping people locked up in boxes and making their lives miserable while creating so much hatred towards others. I think if people could accept changes easily, we would have had a happier world.
I got the write about that word "resistance", a good book about it is "the war of art" :)
The "art of war" you mean?
Na, its by Pressfield. Book is Beast!
http://www.stevenpressfield.com/the-war-of-art/
If you don't change you will always be the same
That picture shows so much without words :)
:)
I think the main reason people do not like to change especially themselves is that it brings their "old" life in doubt. The ego gets offended as you question your values and beliefs. The deeper they are the more you question your beliefs from the past and maybe realize you "wasted" some (or even a lot ) of time on x or y.
But this is actually bullshit for 2 reasons.
a) your old behaviour, habits and values formed you into the person you are today
b) if you are unhappy with your current situation you should take a lookt at the things you do, because you (and I mean you, not your circumstances, finacial background etc) is responisble of who you are.
Change can be scary but is necessary to grow. I really like this quote from a "Dead Prez" song
The universe contains incredible diversity
And you cannot experience it all within the confines of one comfortable lifestyle
Look ahead to what you will think of your life at it's end
You will probably not want to look back and say it was cozy and dull
Thus, react positively to what seems to be disaster
Remember that what seems how to be disaster may be an important step toward evolution
And may even be identifiable as such at some point in the future
Every great loss takes you out of a rut and starts life anew
Be grateful for the time you had and your former happy state
And look forward eagerly to the new phase"
You broke it down like a champ @flipstar... "Change can be scary but is necessary to grow"
You're making me youtube the Dead Prez song now haha.
Appreciate ya boss :)
As you mentioned, @stackin, it comes from within! Our mind is our change machine and our thoughts and actions are the currency required.
I create and I learn to generate happiness in my life, that truly works for me. Love & Learn bro! Excellent work. π₯π
George Carlin was one of my favs! Thanks for stopping by @grow-pro!
He was one of the greats, man! Certainly left his mark on this whirling mud-ball π @stackin. That's what we're all trying to do, isn't it? Keep on that grind & our paths will align.. π
I see you are a fan of Jim John, got to say I love him myself! Such a wise man! Great post there mate! Still cannot believe the progress you have made in such a little amount of time!
Thank you @longfield98, Jim Rohn was one of my first mentors mannnny years ago. He was such a boss!
Couldn't agree more, my mentor recommend listening to him ever day and dam its changed my life! Have a great day bud!
We settle for consistency which is the next best thing because it allows us to suspend our fear of impermanence for a while and imagine that we have found some form of long lasting security.
I don't understand why but we try to resist change to the best of our effort. We don't want to grow old nor do we want to die young either. We resist thriving towards our real potential to unlock greater versions of ourselves, but we prefer to stay in this bubble of consistency which takes tremendous energy to live the same old, dull constant life.
Grasp change by the balls and live a happier and healthier life.
Great to see you spreading these positive vibes @stackin
I just had to say @arckrai, your comments on steemit the last couple months are top notch. You have a good vision and tons of self-awareness in life. :)
Thanks a lot buddy it means so much.
I'm just trying to grind everyday like you and make it to the top haha
@stackin, Awesome post as usual. Your post keep me inspiring always.
Now my following comments are actually some paragraph from a couple of my blogs here a few days ago that I had commented on Jerrybanfield's blog 3 days ago.
So please pardon me, I am just forwarding the same comment that I had made earlier and the same paragraphs from my earlier 2 blogs.
"Now the reason why these people donβt change their life for better is not because they donβt know what to do or how to do it, to change. At some point during counselling, the people reach a stage where they have all the necessary information and knowledge that they need to change in an instant. But then they still remain and stray back onto their past behaviour because they think that their feelings about the situation they are dealing with, is true.
So whatβs really happening is that people respond to their feelings and not to their thoughts about a situation that is disturbing them. People never question their feelings. They believe that their feelings are making an accurate statement of their reality.
Simply put, your feelings define your response to a situation and not the thoughts about the situation."
Regarding happiness, I wrote in one of my other blogs...
"To put it simply, it does not matter what you do and where you are. You are always in the pursuit of happiness.
But then If we only wanted to be happy, it would be easy; but we want to be happier than other people, and that is almost always difficult, since we think them happier than they are.
And finally an important thing to remember. Let Happiness come in any manner. Be it through pleasure, passion or a purpose. Remember that Happiness lies within you. Happiness is never outside you. It's always within you. If you want to be happy, you can. No matter the external circumstances. Happiness is inside YOU."
It is a long read. Hope you liked it :)
I appreciate it, you bring tons of value and perspective to the community with this comment, thanks for sharing it to the world :)
There is just so much uncertainty and people can't handle it a lot of times. They over think the situation too much.
It effects all of us for sure but that is why I actually like the idea of taking a year and living in a different city for a month. So do like AirBnB and move to a different place. 12 different locations. That would be pretty sweet! Pretty much have to have the money to do it and be able to make money online so it escapes most people
Love it... so when are we going to see you do a video outside of the pool lol jk jk
If you've ever been tipped in just change then you know that change sucks. Seriously though...... some of us are stuck in a rut simply because we don't have enough money to change and try as you might to say that you don't need a lot of money to change........ money definitely helps. I would love to move to Las Vegas or just somewhere that's a beach resort but instead I'm stuck here. I do my normal job selling steaks and waiting tables...... then I come home and I write and I check my investments. I'm attempting to move forward but it takes time to make the change that I want.
Hey @jeezzle, for a drastic change... sometimes a person has to say "F IT". I remember when I was stuck and broke growing up. So what I did was hustle hard online for a few years working 100+ hours a week. I stopped doing meaningless things but in due time, change happened fast. I believe in your boss, always keep on moving forward. :)
"Adapt or die". I'm pretty sure someone said that once.
The inertia of staying the same can get very comfortable. I think, fundamentally, most people are creatures of habit looking to get into a comfortable rhythm. Life is just easier that way, because it minimizes the thinking that needs to be done.
Unsurprisingly, this doesn't tend to lead to greatness. One's willpower has to exceed the momentum you have to just stay the same. Everyone has to find what provides the motivation to stoke that willpower for themselves and then follow it.
In other words, crypto-Lamborghinis, ofc.
In other words let's have some greatness and start changing... while the others who are comfortable stay the same, cruel world πππ―
People fail to realize how easy it actually is to change because they never even attempt to change anything about their life.
People tend to live a fearful life without change, it's a shame :)
I like everything to be the same so change is hard for me :/
If I never made changes... I would have a pager, read newspapers, and be on myspace still lol
Man I vibe with this message heavy! We all have to grow and evolve throughout our lives to reach our goals and aspirations. If change wasn't necessary then we would already be successful ya know!?
I'm going to start making people think today ππ
Well that is because some are afraid of change, I think it is the only thing that is constant in this world is change. Change is not bad, but make sure to change for the better :) Great post once again @stackin
Yes sir! become the change :)
We are all responsible for our own path we chose to build for ourselves. It's all up to us to reach and attain greatness!!!
Talking full responsibility for all my decisions I make from now on :)
It's obvious you are doing great βΊοΈ
Why stay stuck / miserable, you already know what you are going to get. You might as well try something different and get a different result...Good stuff!
Appppresh @wallstplaya, also... welcome to steemit :)
Thank you sir!!! :-)
yes u r right @stackin sir and also i think many people think that they r always right in any condition and they think others are wrong and foolish
It's the EGO that kills them on becoming better, its a shame :)
Change or be changed. Choose the first and lead the way. Choose the latter and you'll always be frustrated with the process. Thanks for the message today!
Love this message, make it so simple to make people understand ππΌππΌ
Exactly!!! Old programming = It can be changed!!
I need to do some major reprogramming :)
Boom! love the choice - world changers are built in hard choices in the daily grind - choosing changing now requires courage...doin it
Grind for life kinda action ππΌ
Only few people in the world sees change as the only constant thing.
Remember back then when bitcoin came on board alot sees it as waste but today it has evolve into sometin else thereby making the few people that grab the opportunity rich.
Now steemit is making ways some persons are see seeing it as waste. Hmm time will come just like the time of bitcoin, they will wish they joined earlier.
My humble advice, dont be afraid to take risk or face changes. It is the only constant thing in life
The cloth mom bought for you when you young is not what you putting on now. We got to know the itself changes .
YES, fear doesn't exist and people use it an excuse so that they don't have to change. :)
Yes said it all boss
Great post about bettering yourself through change. Change is important so you don't get stuck in the same rut over and over. Life is what you make of it.
Yes sir, too bad 80% of people will stay the same until its to late... and that is true, life is what you make it :)
totally agree. If you not happy with your job, change! If you are not happy with life, change! If you not happy with anything, change! No point being stuck in an unhappy situation where you have no choice.
Never stop learning and don't settle!
That the best way to look at it, no excuses action :)
We like the old and the new is sometimes scary. Life does happen and we are at times forced into change whether we like it or not. At that moment in time though is our power to make a choice, one will make us go more downward and the other will make us go more upward. It is danger and opportunity at the same time.
My response to people, "just do it" :)
You are 100% correct . We all find a comfortable place and are never willing to change. It becomes difficult as we are to afraid of the unknown. However , one will never now if the grass is greener on the outside if we don't go there.
please check this poem out
That is a great poem, I wonder who wrote it because I want to read more about this person :)
I think why people don't really change is not that they enjoy the state they are currently, but the subconscious mind doesn't allign with you to change. It's only when your subconscious mind allign with you that's when you can see change. It's the subconscious mind that will tell you "dont you know when you change you will loose it all" or " when you change many people around you will leave you" maybe you might fail when you change. Those thoughts will make you to start to reconsider. My thought.
People don't know that 95% of all the we do everyday are controlled by the subconscious mind. So how does one program that, its a everyday task, start surrounding you with successful and awesome people :)
The only constant thing in this world is change and change is inevitable, i have some of my friends on facebook who are still skeptical about steemit, they might probably join when i finally become a whale and probably earning hundreds of dollars like @stackin.lol
Thats the funny thing, when you become a whale, they will be skeptical for years to come. They will just make excuses and say that you got "lucky" lol
Hahaha
Great advice, true success can only come from improving yourself every day. Although it is nice to have some steady principles so my head isn't always spinning π. Keep it up π―π
I'm going to start improving my blogs haha ... thanks boss :)
I think people don't like to change because they are afraid of the unknown
I like the unknown, makes life exciting lol
Great motivational post ,so true! Change is good, it creates a happier environment and a happier life . Why be stuck by our old believes and habits ?
Yes, who wants to ever live in the past... I sure don't lol . Thanks for commenting :)
For people looking for them, there will always be excuses.
I refuse to be those people. My goals may not be achieved by my original desired dates, but I do eventually make them. I work every single day to take baby steps forward too, and most people I know are just spinning their wheels. They are not even taking baby steps. Instead, they are just surviving. I'll never understand them either.
Thanks and resteemed!
Progress right there and u said an awesome word "refuse"!!
Great advice and I love the positive thinking. On a side note, you look a like Neymar in that picture lol
Are you saying I'm a comic book character? haha... I was hoping bruce lee :)
Lol Neymar is the Brazilian soccer player
Opps! ... Not to many soccer fans in America lol
Everything around us is changing constantly and even our body cells change after few days and after every 7 years, the whole body transformation takes place and that is for the wellness for us. So we should learn from these examples and change the things which are not working they way they should. Change is good and requires some risks so we should go for it.
A very good way to look at it! People need to take tons of risks, I found a long time ago... people are scared of risk and never take that chance to really change their lives.
I agree with all of this. The reason most people don't change though is because it's uncomfortable. It takes work. Negativity is easy cause it doesn't inspire change. And yes, old programming is a problem, BUT... people, when they have to adapt to something quickly, like if their life depended on it, they would. So old programming isn't much of an excuse.
A perfect example in the movie fight club, brad pitt put a gun to a guy head said that if u dont change his situation, he will find him in a few months. LOL... in other words, stay uncomfortable everyday :)
My favorite quote of all time is from Wayne Dyer - "If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change"
Mannnn, thats a great quote. Change is always good, I learn from it every time :)
Change is great indeed especially if the current situation is not working out in our favor..always great to see your post..success
Appppresh @charles1, I need to change my shirt designs haha
Haha, that will be a good start if you so wish..haha
tony robbins will be coming knocking on your door for advice
I would be very scared, he is a giant lol
You can notice you are changing by the people around you, I've lost a lot of friends because of it. They are still stuck in the same daily routines and I like to take a risk. There's no growth without them
Yeah, people really hate change of their friends or people that they are close with... they tend to think that they are leaving them behind :(
True friends stay, no matter what happens
"True happiness come from within by learning, doing, or creating new things..." ... True dat @stackin!
It came from my brain in an instant haha :)
Your thoughts are a deep, deep ocean...... tee hee ;)
people in general are too lazy to leave their comfort zone
Simple and Easy :)
yehh..but hey, they are the ones who lose
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ITS A REAL STORY.....
Great Post.