I appreciate your post. I am the result of a broken home as well. My parents divorced when I was 4. I was prevented from knowing my father's family growing up. I did meet them on independence day (July 4) when I was 18. There is an irony there, Using my skills in genealogy I found out my father's mother lived 18 miles away and Dad was in Chicago. I did get to know my father for the next 19 years when he died if liver cancer.
Looking back I was told how stupid marriage was. It takes no education, any fool could do it. If only Mom could have provided me with a good mentor (s) who were married and positive about marriage. To this day I still defend my Father's name. They were both at fault. She though she could change him and he could not stand up to her. When I finally did by leaving the accounting field and going back to teaching and playing guitar she could not take it. The next two years they argued and grew apart.
Folks need to ask the important questions before marrying. They also need real respect and face the hard reality rather than the dream like feeling of being in love. My parents were in love at one time but did not have the respect enough to have real love. So I became the recipient of their jadedness and negativeness. It has taken me a long time to work though this. Had I known then what I know today I would be so much better. However life is a journey and for some of us because of divorce it takes longer to get there but we DO get there.
Folks need to minimize the psychological baggage and work though what there is. If you do not your family inherits your baggage and so does the world. Be responsible. Deal with your own baggage out of respect to others. Great post by the way. - Troy
Wow Troy thank you for sharing this with us. You can make a post with it. Valuable lessons to take from it. I glad you are back my friend. Maybe I quote you in follow up posts.