In my last 10 years I have been focused on improving myself physically, as I am sure most of you have tried over the years.
最近十年我常常花時間改善我的外觀，相信你們也常常如此。
I have spent a lot of time at the gym, to make myself stronger, to build muscle, to lose fat.
我常常花時間在健身房裡練肌肉，減肥，把自己變壯一些。
My mum and relatives have worried about my baldness. Some of them have even wanted me to try things to grow my hair back.
我媽跟一些親戚有時候會擔心我是禿頭。有時還會給我建議讓我想辦法把頭髮長回來。
Some of my friends have suggested that I should buy more fashionable clothes.
有一些朋友會建議我買時尚一點的服裝。
I have also worried about how wearing glasses affects my appearance. Sometimes I struggle before going on a date whether I should wear glasses or contacts.
有時候我也會在去約會之前考慮，戴眼睛還是不戴眼鏡比較好看。
Here is the interesting thing. Recently I was at a dance class. After the class I was sitting down on the side getting a drink.
有趣的事來了。最近我去上跳舞課。上完課以後，我坐在教室旁邊的椅子上喝水。
Suddenly, a random girl approached me and sat next to me. She talked to me for about 10 minutes, like we have known each other for a while.
突然有一個女孩跑來，坐在我旁邊，開始跟我聊天。她跟我聊了十分鐘，好像我們很熟似的。
Finally I couldn't help myself. I said to her: Do we know each other?
到最後我實在忍不住了，就問她: 我們認識嗎?
She looked even more puzzled than I was. She looked around the room and said "Oh, I thought you were...".
她愣了一陣，四處看一看，說: "喔，我以為你是..."
It turns out that she got me confused with another guy in the room. He was thin, had a full head of hair, was wearing an expensive suit, did not wear any glasses. In other words, total opposite of what I was that night.
原來她把我當成班上的另外一個男孩。他很瘦，頭髮很多，穿的是高級的西裝，也沒戴眼鏡。也就是說，跟我那天晚上相反。
Why have I tried so hard all these years to change myself? Relax. Be yourself.
我為什麼要花這麼多時間試著改變自己? 放輕鬆些。做好自己。
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Once you understand that appearance is not all, you will improve your perception of other people. E.g the looks of their eyes and their body language. It can be still missperceptive but you will learn to see "through" a Person and eventually learn interesting facts about them
That's deep.
Now you have realized the truth. Every entity has its own existence and is unique. So we should not change ourselves to please others, if they really love us, they will accept us as we are.
Brilliant. Thanks.
You always are yourself, sometimes you are yourself that accepts itself as he/she is, sometimes you are yourself that accepts yourself as someone who doesn't like him/herself. But in the end you always are yourself.
Hello friend @magicmonk congratulations for your post, thanks for sharing it, keep it up
thanks :)
"love me or leave me alone " :)
exactly :)
Relax. Be yourself -> agree!
Thanks :)
Excellent advice. I'm beginning to bald too and my girlfriend wants me to try different techniques to grow it back. While I wish I could, I just have to accept it and enjoy the rest of the hair I still have. As for the gym, it's great to forge the body you want but it also just makes you feel great!! If you are continuing there, keep it up!
Yep definitely still going to the gym, just thought it's better not to stress about how much muscle you have etc. I think you are also right about your hair. Thanks for your support !
😄 有意思
感謝O兄欣賞。
Appearances aren't everything but it would be quite a bold statement to say they don't matter at all.
One can say much the same about money too.
Yes. The main point of the post is the story. Whether it matters or not is up to you to decide.
做自己最重要！有时候为了要讨好或吸引别人尝试改变成所谓‘更好的自己’，就算有人喜欢了也不是真正的自己啊。我以前就翻了这个错误，到后来对方都会说，‘你怎么变啦？’其实都没变，只是之前的自己没那么的真。
所以说做自己最重要！
You are so right:)
That's right - relax and don't worry what people see of you. Do your best and people will soon notice you :)
Wise words :)
Nice post buddy
Thank you :)