Okay, after much muttering and staring at the CD shelves...
"If I Can't Change Your Mind" by Bob Mould, recorded by Sugar on the epic Copper Blue album.
Why?
A killer riff that goes down well in any situation.
The sentiment is dark and desperate and loving, yet you can dance to it.
I can play it on guitar!
Plus, Bob has a big bucket of songs like this.
GenZ: Hey Dad, what's the song like back in the 90's?
GenX: Googles this song
Indeed we do!
I play this at folk club and there's always someone who says "I LOVED that song back in the 90s!"