Cool, Yes me too. I've been super epic mega shy my whole life lol. Well, most of it anyway..
Struggled so much. Still working on it here and there, but this is what I use to remove these types of patterns. Take responsibility for them, and show myself that they are not needed, I don't have to live this way. And yes agreed, can be sooo difficult. And then comparison with others who seemingly are so confident and not phased makes one feel worse haha. Lots of traps.
Thanks for your comment :)