Did they force you against your will or did you "reluctantly" go with them.
Also you can make the grey area as big as you want and throw whatever you need for your argument in there, but until you resolve to speak in real world examples of being forced against your will, not "reluctantly" going along you'll be stuck in abstractions seeking to justify an experience as "glad".
It's funny that you say that everything is an abstraction, but when I ask you to define motivational forces that push you forward you have nothing to say. You have to understand that life is an abstraction and trying to focus on one specific event does not hold much weight. That event focused on could be an outlier and never happen again. The notion of a black and white version of life does not exist, and grey areas are almost what makes life what it is. Life is not knowing what will happen next, it consist of guessing based off of multiple past experiences, these experiences are tied together in what could be called abstract ways because the science of personality and psychology is not perfected.
You still haven't answered my question on being born with the same intelligence potential and capabilities.