People are investments. In our investing ventures, we almost always overlook the biggest and most important “procurement” we make. However, just like any other tradable equity, people can be either assets or liabilities.
This is another overlooked concept. We enjoy true friendships both for what we bring to it, and what we get out of it. In its purest context, friendship is mutually beneficial, and thus, all parties are found investing deeply into the relationship.
But in the real world, not everyone gives as much as they take. More often than not, we see people who take excessively, while giving the absolute minimum, if at all.
Although a friendship can survive being carried by one, eventually, equilibrium must be found.
In my personal journey, I discovered that everything starts with the mind. We choose the trajectory our lives will take. We even choose the quality of our lives, even down to the health of our individual cells.
Contrary to conventional wisdom, good health doesn’t start with pharmaceuticals. It doesn’t even start with eating vegetables, and avoiding processed foods. Surely, these are good pursuits, but everything starts with our desire to be healthy – all other things will follow suit with our determination.
That’s why every morning, I read the Word of God, and I ask the Holy Spirit to give me the strength to overcome today’s challenges.
I embrace health, love, courage, and I become those very things.
But some people spend too much time dying. Imagine if they focused their efforts on living!
I had to make the difficult, but necessary decision to drop someone from my blog community. At first glance, the decision may appear cold. This person struggles with a litany of life-threatening diseases, something to which I can’t relate. I patiently listened to the accounts of pain and suffering.
But at a certain point, I just had enough. This person began to fill my own life with fear and trepidation. I imagined for myself symptoms that prior to “meeting” this individual on my blog, I never gave a second thought.
I realized that, should I continue listening to the diatribe, I too would end up bedridden.
The problem is that this afflicted person has an extremely pessimistic and dark, almost macabre, attitude. But by doing so, this patient is stymieing the body’s natural healing process. According to medical research, our cells and organs rejuvenate and regenerate themselves, but only when we are relaxed, and not under duress.
In other words, this person was spending more time dying, rather than focusing precious energy on living.
I, however, will choose to live.
I embrace life, and that only starts with positive thinking. If you think like a loser, you’ll end up being a loser. Think like a winner, and you’ll be a winner. The journey isn’t guaranteed to be easy, but where the mind and heart goes, so too does the body.
Again, this is why I spend every morning reading the Word and praying to Jesus Christ. It’s not that I’m trying to win favor for supporting Christianity. In contrast, I’m doing this to refresh my mind, give myself a new perspective. That’s one of the reasons why today is a new day of grace.
Even in our darkest hour, we have hope. But we have to choose to embrace that hope. This only happens with positive thinking, with a genuine, faithful desire to live.
Wish I could reseteem, but I saw this too late
There is very little that happens to us in this life that is in itself good or bad. It just is.
I have come to realize this over the past six years, when, after a life of general wellness, I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. In its own weird way, it has been a blessing, by causing me to focus on what I eat, how I exercise, and stress and lifestyle management. Yes, there are bad days, but I choose to focus on the good.
Excellent thoughts!
Thanks for the encouragement to be positive and allow for healing to take place. Good stuff. I enjoy your blog.
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Have a great day!
Yes, we definitely need to choose who we allow to come close to us. Every negative word and complaint has an effect on our subconscious mind.
As a Christian, I know this decision was a tough one to make.
I used to have more than one emotional vampire in my inner circle, and as you said, as time went on, the connection to those people started to make me worn out.
I know it can devastating to live with an illness or constant ailment. A person in such affliction would be experiencing pain and/or suffering on a daily basis - so the natural reaction to that would be to become pessimistic about life.
You can be a shoulder to lean on for people in that position, but after a while, it's hard not to get pulled into their pessimistic reality yourself.
It's a tough place to be. Both for the person who is suffering and the friend on standby who is a shoulder to lean on.
However, I've been around someone who has been suffering from sickle cell anemia for years. She is constantly in and out of operations. She lives an extremely tough life.
And yet, she is a not a pessimistic person. She is very giving to others and has a bright perspective about things. This leads me to believe, that even through hardships, some people manage to choose to live anyway.
Thank you for your comments; I genuinely believe that we are given the power to move the trajectory in our lives. Focus on darkness and despair, and more than likely, that's what you receive. Think of life and beauty, even something to look forward to, can dramatically alter our lives for the better.
I hate that I had to essentially drop this person from my social media connections; however, his negativity was becoming a burden on me. I am not the most spiritually strong person, but I'm trying to change that with positive thinking.
Unfortunately, listening daily to stories of sorrow, despair, and casual musings of suicide was enough for me. Such focusing on the darkness does no one, primarily the sufferer, any favors.
Prayers for the person whose affliction(s) are so encompassing that the Light is too dim to see; and, that this fellow Steemian may receive a renewed sense of hope and optimism in this difficult place.
Peace.