This is really useful. It raises a question for me: how is an online community different, how can these non-cyber experiences inform what is happening here? Rather than equivocating over terms - violence, for example - let's find the ways that tolerance and compassion could be fostered online. Perhaps there is really very little difference with an online community, but I can't feel that that is the case.
And your post gives me an idea, because as well as laying out a useful example, it is an authentic episode in your life story, and so a huge chunk of validation. Maybe it is that this openess, more of This Is Who I Am posts, will help build a sustainable community of humans. Thank you.
Glad to be of service.