In few men is it part of nature to respect a friend's prosperity without begrudging him. - Aeshylus
Altruism and self-determination are not mutually exclusive, but it requires a certain training to align them. Celebrating others' success as if it was our own is rarely found in working environments.
Now one of the trickiest challenges in the Steem community is the ability to align financial interest and social integrity. Just think about your real life relationships: There are few things we try to avoid more than mixing up friendship and money, correct?
So what happens when our friends suddenly become our most feared competitors or the other way around? Here's my theory: only those who're able to manage this situation without using their ellbows and trying to create a "me first" culture, will succeed in the long run.
Here's to the greatness of enjoying other people's success!
@surfermarly & friend teaming up
Begrudging impeeds growth
Steve Jobs said once:
Great things in business are never done by one person. They're done by a team of people.
I'm pretty sure that this applies for any sort of business.
The great challenge we're facing now with tokenized social networks is that we're focussing on our own outcome (financial driver) while we become attached to our competitors in an emotional way (social integrity).
What is more important: being a good friend, or being successful? Can we achieve both?
Being rewarded for social interaction is something completely new in a technological but also in a psychological way.
It's a fascinating phenomena: suddenly we forget about our core principles and start doing business with friends.
Or it happens the other way around: we suddenly socially interact with our biggest competitors. We even begin to share income with them and celebrate it. Really?
Yes, really.
And the upvote goes to... your competing friend! Awesome! :-)
It's a fine line
On one hand we're establishing social bonds (even new friendships) with other members of the network, and on the other hand we're competing against each other for the same pool of money.
Finding the right balance between healthy competition - which can be found in mutual inspiration, support and knowledge transfer for instance - and trustful friendship becomes a core competence in tokenized eco-systems.
Selfish hardliners, egocentrics and enviers are living hard times.
Here's my strategy on how to align financial interest and social integrity:
No copyrights here (spread it!) :-)
- Only team up with positive people that don't begrudge each other.
- Learn from others and find inspiration in their skills without envy.
- Spread positivity and promote the benefits of healthy competition.
- Share your knowledge with others and be a role model in team spirit.
- Ignore envy, jealousy or false praise, and stop interacting with people who practice these attitudes. They need you, but you don't need them.
- Celebrate others' success in the way you celebrate your own, happiness is contagious :-)
It's a fine line, but you can walk on it :-)
Those who're pretending to keep other community members back and that way limit their development in order to improve their own position within the network, are wasting their energy.
They'll be falling by the wayside.
Even tokenized social networks keep the word social after all. The fact that interaction is rewarded monetarily now doesn't dimish the importance of its social origin. You can't fake that.
My prediction: Successfully aligning financial interest and social integrity will become the supreme discipline in networks like Steem.
Do you actually know where the word community has its origin? It comes from the Old French comunete which means:
reinforced by its source
Then let's do this :-)
Best, Marly -
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No truer words spoken! When I changed my associations my life changed.
Thanks for stopping by, Randy! I experienced the very same thing :-)
beautifully said and I like the 6 rules within your strategy. They're all strong and very inspirational but number 6 stands above the rest for me. Remember our focus is our reality. If we focus on the negativity it will become our reality and quicker than one might believe. The hardest part of spreading happiness is leaving behind or not allowing the negativity in our inner circles. It comes in many forms but one must be strong enough to identify it.
I like that one very much! Thank you :-)
wos... "a troll-free zone" - dann bin i wieder weg ;)
Haha, ja des kommt davon, wennst immer herum pöbelst! Typisch Österreicher! :-D
awww what an awesome post! I love this! Great tips.. my favorite... "Only team up with positive people that don't begrudge each other." There are so many positive people on this platform to meet! I love them! Thanks for the post and resteemed.
Hey Karen, how are you doing? You're completely right, we've got a lot of cool, positive and supportive people on this platform. Lucky us we even met some of them in person already :-)
Thanks for the resteem :-*
❤️ I’m doing well!! Traveling Asia right now with acromott and meeting up with ramengirl again! I’ve had an exciting adventure in Thailand. I’m actually going to make a post soon about a non profit I fell in love with. Going to donate everything the post makes to them. :) I was inspired by your charity work you do on Steemt! I really want to give back too ❤️❤️❤️
Oh that's too sweet, I definitely have to check out your blog again though! :-)
What a positive way of thinking! Great post Marly 💪💪😊😉. Seems like your little break on Steemit gave you a lot of inspiration:)))
Thanks for your lovely words @olgy-art! It was indeed a good idea to take a little break and reload creative batteries :-)
Marly, am glad i followed this link from Facebook
I have been betrayed by fellow countrymen over nothing, begrudging is like an inbuilt diseases to some people even not teaming up with them they still ruin your good deeds.
Nice post. It brings me to very important aspect of life and this is who you are associate whit and what kind of environment you have, since it can have huge impact on your life. Steem is unique, because everyone wins:).
Nice writing..you begin witha great quote that i inspire from it..Friendship. Always remember, money can't buy happiness. Money does not have the ability to provide emotional comfort.
This is nice
I have to thank you Marly. I have been thinking about doing some posts to serve cancer research, as I lost both my parents to it.
Now I just needed a little nudge to go through with it!
Well this post is that nudge!
Tnx in advance
That's a great idea, I'm pretty happy you felt inspired by my post.
Sorry for getting back late, I'm currently receiveing so many comments that it's hard to not lose the thread.
No worries! You're quite the celebrity around here, so you get some perks! ;-)
Can't read for now.. I am very hungry
@Originalworks
Always do any work that should be united. Because there are ten reasons to do work, loss or win not shame.
Nice write-up @surfermarly, you look so pretty and your smile so divine.
I believe we can have a society where we'll be good friends and still be successful too and also lead our community to the top too.
At the end of the day, adding value to people around us is achieved.
True talk dear
Ibthink this is a two factor relationship, .
Nowdays you can not have friends without money and you can not have money without friends.
Amazing work dear and you going great work .
Thanks for sharing .
Namaste
Interesting read. I honestly don't really care about my financial gain from this. I am very active on instagram and youtube and utilize those as my mail platforms. I enjoy trying new things and I love crpyto currency! I was a no brainer for me to get on steemit and dtube.
Good for you :-)
<3 Thanks for theses words...
You are more than welcome @roxane! :-)
There are two approaches towards life, One is support others to get them succeed, second is jealous upon others success. Both are working in our society. I am happy that you are at really positive side of life Marly
Thank you so much for the positive message My Friend :) :)
This is absolutely true. Rejoice in others success. They deserve it and so do you but all success is earned.
Exactly :-) Good to see you again, Stephen!
The love of money is really the root of all evil!😂🤣
But the love of love(relationships) is the root to a solid future!
LOL!
People are meant to be loved and things used. But somehow the tables turned!
I hope platforms like steemit turns it back around!
LET LOVE LEAD!(LOL!)😉
Nice one marley!
Nice one!
I'm a fan of this mindset and writing style!
Wow! it is positive think. thank you so much.
I love this. No investment is as rewarding as investing in people with positivity.
The people that are happy for your successes are invaluable, never loose them.
Very interesting writing.
loved the post. I try to spread this way of thinking in the corporate world, just by example. I think it is not that hard to be happy for others when you are aligned with your real self, happy wit( who you are and what you do. unhappy people tend to look elsewhere to find more ways to remain unhappy.
just shared it. thanks