I wrote this one over a year ago about the victim mentality and how it affects us. It also includes my tips for letting go of this destructive mentality: https://steemit.com/spirituality/@becomingwhtur/how-the-victim-mentality-and-it-s-enablement-is-destroying-the-world
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wow what a topic. Your post is very good. Victimization is like a cultural phenomenon nowadays. It is everywhere, encouraged basically. I can admit I've fallen victim to this way of thinking quite a bit in my younger years - and even still once and a while. I like how you brought in the light at the end. There is hope. More people are waking up to this enabling force which creates only victims and abusers for the sole purpose of spreading negativity and fear. Empathy for suffering of others is what will save us, I think. But victims can never be fully empathetic because they are so hurt by whatever has been done to them that they feel it is more pressing/important/deeper than anyone else's pain. You have to heal yourself in order to show someone else the way.
Yes, that is the rub, when you're so wounded by victimization, it's hard to see beyond your own fingers and toes. I have used Jnana yoga to great effect to get a "bird's eye view" of my suffering, that is, Jnana yoga is a systematic process of renouncement of ego identification, and it helps greatly with breaking the cycles of our own thoughts and mental illusions dragging us down.
Empathy, on the other hand can be developed through Karma yoga, which is the yoga of selfless service to others without expectation of reward. Swami Vivekananda said that all four paths of orthodox yoga will bring a practitioner to spiritual freedom, but he placed special emphasis on Karma yoga for the benefits of selfless empathy that one develops, which is very much needed in this world! He saw that truth over a century ago, amazing!
thanks for all that wonderful information - I'm a beginner in the world of yoga - I used to think yoga was just Hatha yoga, asanas and the physical practice but as I started learning more I realized there is so much more! It is amazing to see yogis from so long ago having such insight and wisdom.. it baffles me how much knowledge the eastern world held long before the western world started trying to "scientifically" define everything. Funny how things are starting to match up, though!
I can recommend many things! Look into Sri Ramakrishna's works... he was Swami Vivekananda's teacher. Vivekananda was brilliant like a star, Ramakrishna was radiant like the sun :)
If you use discord you are more than welcome to contact me there becomingwhtur#8264
Blessings!
thank you very much!! I will be looking into these teachers!
You have wrapped the whole topic of victimism in that post, I can't agree more on what you said, especially about compassion as I believe if adopted by someone it would change his life and the lives of those who come into contact with him.
Thanks for sharing
Thank you so much! I see this victimization in people and it really pulls on my heart. I just want to shake them (gently) and say "Don't you know what a beautiful and powerful creature you are??"
I actually like this post a lot. I see it on some friends, their misery is like a self for filling prophecy which makes them tangle and tangle in circles.
What I am wondering about even more.... This post is over a year old, I scrolled through your page. You have rep 38, but you post a lot. How is this possible? With this consistency of posting you should be way higher already. I also see that not all of your posts are as good. Some are nice, nice blogs. Some are just an image sometimes without a source... Maybe leave those out and stick to good blogs like this??
I LOVE your guncontrol blog from 23 days ago with 0.00 payout :((((
The images you are seeing are from dmania.lol, a meme sharing site where you earn steem. I posted a few of them, but had recently stopped because doing so reduces the quality of my blog overall.
Thank you for the complements! I'm trying to build up my steemit blog. I had been inactive over a year, but recently gotten back into it. I would have linked the gun control post here, but it's not a month old yet.
You can use it in a while then for this initiative. Glad to have you back on the steeming track!
I think I will! Thanks again <3
Your post earned a follow from me.
One thing I recently heard someone point out, is that another definition for the word suffering is consent. This doesn't mean that if someone commits a violation against you that you've consented to that action. But you do consent to the pain you put yourself through afterwards - which often is a unavoidably necessary process. You consent to the trauma because your unconscious knows that you need to process it. The key, I think, is knowing when to say "I no longer suffer/consent to this pain." Finding the needed closure for this is a very difficult thing for a lot of people, but doing so can help arm you against any further trespasses by others.
@fireawaymarmot :That is a very interesting way of looking at it, and gives me a lot to think about! Thank you for sharing that insight. I think you will like my "affirmations of the healer/healee" should you want to take a look at that in my blog. It talks about the soul choosing the right conditions for the fruitions of ones karmas, and that is very similar to what you are talking about. Blessings <3