yeah respect is the word.
well my dad was a strict dad. he does not take nonsense. i remember when we were little, we were not allowed to go out of the house. but as children we would want to go out and play or better still watch tv in a neighbor's house and my dad hates that. if he comes back and does not meet us, he would beat us a lot.
here is the type of cane he uses
picture from google
it is called koboko.
his had 6 mouths so that it will be distributed all around the body.
well i can say some of the beatings =were too much but the motive was a good one.
in Nigeria a lot of things are happening. for example i had of case that a woman stole her friends's child and used the child for money rituals. this wouldnt have happened if the child did not go to the womans house. this is one one the numerous things the koboko was meant to correct
my brothers got still punished with that kind of a thing. Personally - and I have raised 3 kids to be very functioning adults - I think hitting your children is a terrible idea and doesn't lead to happy adults at all.
It takes more work to correct a child's behavior with kindness and explanations and so forth - but beating a person just installs fear. To me, that is not respect.
one of the things civilization is already changing but till it finally changes all. welcome to my World
I hear you. It takes time. My brothers were spanked with a thing you showed, I, only by hand -my kids, not at all...... Change takes a bit of time.