Masaitv... Please imagine a face smiling at you when I say this ok?
It's not easy to make it on Steem and that's a good thing. We all must be consistent and relentless. I know people on here that wrote 94 post before ever making one single penny and now they are dolphins and make good income. I think expectations are part of the reason why we get upset about these things.
I certainly wrote a lot before anyone noticed I existed at all... So the answer to your question is nuanced, but not that difficult. You gotta find your own way to be consistent (post and comment a lot daily) and be patient. It's not an amazing formula, it might not even feel good... but, most who are here don't have a financial investment into the platform hence they have to start from zero and that is very, very difficult.
It's all good, I ain't mad at you! Whatever you have said here just about sums up what I imagined you saying. It's sound advice which I plan to take to heart, thank you for taking the time to reply, and I will be consistent and patient while I post and comment daily.