Part of the abuse is the carefully crafted public persona. The abuser delights in knowing that that should his victim ever dare come forward, no one will believe her. The psychological impact of this alone is traumatizing to the victim, and it is part and parcel of the power and control wheel.
I was in an abusive marriage for 18 years. The abuse worsened AFTER the divorce because his family was high-profile in our community. They had money and power, and I didn't. Ten years after the divorce, I am still paying all too high of a price for having married a "behind-closed-doors" monster.
Thank you for your post. Blessings.
I am totally sorry for what you passed through in your marriage. It is not a good experience to have a partner abuse and emotionally traumatize the other partner. Behind- closed-doors activities like this could actually render one psychologically handicapped.
Thank you fro sharing your story dear friend and I wish you happiness and peace of mind, stay strong.