What the hell are you talking about? I don't know how you got that from what I said. As I said, I don't hate him. There is also no self-loathing here on my part either.
He is a 22 year old man and shouldn't by crying like a child looking for sympathy for making a choice that could entail his not returning to the US. He is South Korean and with his education could be living quite well there if he isn't allowed to return.
He isn't a disadvantaged downtrodden individual.