I don’t know how to console someone and lift their spirit up. Although I’m good at listening, all I can do is listen genuinely and say “it’s okay” or something similar.Really glad we are having this discussion. Thank you @humanearl.
Yesterday, I was having a talk with a friend. She was depressed and was almost breaking down. I badly wanted to make her feel better. Because this was a serious issue and I cannot rub it off saying “It’s okay.” That would be cruel.
But I feared I would mutter something nonsense and make her even more miserable. I don’t have a good sense of humor too, to make her laugh.
A few minutes passed, listening to her story, until I finally decided to fight with the demons and break my comfort zone.
I talked with her for around an hour. About how I understand her, and why I believe she shouldn’t judge or be rude at herself. She confessed about various things for the first time. Like never before.
And after an hour or so, she left, with tears, and a grin.
I don’t think success has any predefined milestone to cross. Or a million dolor cheque to hold. Except that you could do what you wanted to.
And all I know is, I was successful yesterday.
Glad you helped you friend. I hate hearing people deal with that. I know exactly how it feels. The best thing is to have someone that can listen to you and try to understand. So I am proud of you for stepping in to help.