Holy crow - that was a hell of a roller-coaster ride.
Goes to show that the stranger standing next to you, you've got no idea the kind of burden he's carrying on his shoulders.
Also goes to show that as messed up as you might feel, you're not alone.
I'm glad to hear you dodged all those bullets and found a loving and supportive wife. The blessing-counter is really hitting a high-score on this one.