Wait a minute! Have I missed something? Whilst the @ecoTrain have been posting over the last month on patriarchy and matriarchy, I have been very down on patriarchy for all the things that it displays today. At the same time I have all been bestowing my blessings and desire for a more matriarchal world, to the extent that I have been imagining what a perfect world a matriarchy would be like. In the meantime, I have been missing something in my posts which I think needs to be said. @clara-andriessen has written about this, as have a few @ecoTrain passengers, and that point is that our ideal societal structure would be a blend of both matriarchy and patriarchy. When the balance shifts to either side too much, we end up at the same extreme point (its a circle not a see-saw).. and SO a full on 100% matriarchy would yield results that are just as bad as a full on patriarchy is.
The Plight Of Men
I have another thing to get out! Is there a rant coming? Yes there is! You see, it is True that women have been oppressed for as far back as we can remember. The worst of this started around 2000 years ago, when the political system changed to allow for ownership of land (and wives), and some distribution of power to other men. This change led to many things, and the competition that ensued has brought us to where we are today. I would like to say that I also have great sorrow for the plight of men and the masculine principles in all of this. The oppression of women by men is no less severe than the oppression of men by men! Men around the world have had to put up with an ego maniac, testosterone driven oppressive system their whole lives. The oppression of men by men, both physically and emotionally, and the pressure for men to be and act a certain way pervades all of our cultures. Men have been forced to look and act a certain way as well as women, and if they show any weakness, or even compassion, they will be attacked for it. The things men have had to do to look tough and be accepted by their peers would make you shudder!
Men have to be balanced by women, and vice versa. Writing this reminds me of a job I used to have which really drives this point home. I used to work as a wine waiter in a hotel banqueting suite when I was a student. It was a silver service production, with dinner, alcohol, and a three course banquet with live music. The evening would always start very formally, and I would greet people with a glass of champagne in my black suite and bow tie and welcome them in. My job thereafter was to ply them with as much booze as they could handle, and let the night play out. We had two kinds of events, one was with women and men, and the other was a men only night! It is fair to say that it was the same kind of men who attended both the mixed banquets, as well as the men only. It was really amazing to see the difference, it was the same every time! On a mixed couple event the men were gentlemen! They were so polite to me when ordering drinks, they tipped reasonably well, and got a little drunk and enjoyed their time. It was a civil event! Now, what about when the men all get together in the very same place, for a very similar occasion? Well, if we had a men only night we would know to brace ourselves before hand. The bar would stock up on extra everything! The men would arrive as they did before, very formally and everything would seem quite civilized. "Would you like a glass of Champagne Sir?" I would ask everyone, "Oh yes, thank you very much!" and they would take it and have a sip or two and walk off. But we ALL knew what was in store! The bar would be bursting at the seams for the first hour or two, until we could finally manage to get everyone to move to the banqueting suite where they could take their seats at the dinner table. From that moment, things just get progressively more loud and crazy. By the end of the night it would be normal to have a few guys standing on the tables and dancing shirtless. They were all friends but would be shouting fuck this and that and all have a great and very 'manly' time. They all loved it, in way that you can when you are blind drunk and trying to be a man and fit in with the boyz. I wonder how many of those guys really preferred a normal night out with their wife and friends?
Why am I saying this? Because my point is we have to honor BOTH the masculine and feminine principals in order to have the type of society that I would like to live in. My heart goes out to all men who have suffered in this male dominated world, who were pressured into being someone they don't want to be. We have ALL suffered under imbalanced patriarchy, EVEN the few 0.1%, and I feel better for acknowledging that. We should not blame men or mankind for the problems of this world, but instead we should blame the system that allocated and controlled power as it does. A system that led a competition so vast that it took over the entire planet. When we take ANY man, or women, and breed them in life of en-slavery, hypocrisy, corruption and abuse, you can only expect to see the very worst traits come out. We know this to be true for all animals, and all life, and we should realise that this is the same for our civilization and the crisis that it is in.
We have now reached the point in our technological advancement where we can be controlled and manipulated in ways and subtleties that almost no one can resist. The saying "Resistance is Futile" is very true when we are faced with a government that weilds the powers of Omnipotence, Omniscience, and Omnipresence. I use these words intentionally, as they are the same words used to describe the powers of G-d. That is point, those in power are becoming Godly like in their power and reach and ability to control things. People are made to feel powerless, and most don't even challenge the entire premise of being ruled over by an evil regime... yet.... I say yet.. I mean, I hope, I hope that the time comes very soon that people start putting their foot down and resisting.
For a balanced world to flourish, where we live in a world that doesn't cause so much pain, We have to lead the way!
I have no idea how this change will happen, but I know it HAS to happen. I also know you wont see this change happening on mainstream media, at all. The Revolution Will Not Be Televised folks! The revolution is happening here, and under the covers.. in the little spaces in between. If you know where to look, you can see it happening. If we stop complying in all the ways that we do (especially social compliance), we will discover a whole new world and a whole new group of people. Saying no means BEING no. That means, guys acting how the heck they want to act. Drink lemonade with friends instead of beer, pay it forward, cry, and allow yourself to Love, to really love. That is where the revolution needs to happen, and is happening. The revolution in our hearts is what will lead to our evoLution. Thank G-d I can see that happening in the world today, because the day will never come when I kneel in front of an A.I super computer screen in my living room!
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Yes, Alex, men are also suffering in this system I'd say just as much. As it's not the balanced masculine qualities that is having most space to rule but the unbalanced ones as they are not counter balanced by the healthy feminine qualities. Actually nobody can thrive this way.
Why are you backtracking though? In my pinion you have not proposed Matriarchy in your previous posts as a system where ONLY the feminine would rule. (Ok, you did say the need for all structure would be out the window. ) But I seemed to have understood that you have recognised that the feminine principle would rule in both women AND men, leaving enough space for the healthy masculine to balance it out. Because leading would be seen as a position of service not privilege. Anyway, balance it is in service of Life. I like how you suggest we make the change happen in our social exchange, by being loyal to ourselves. I also feel it will happen within that's why I have posted a diagram for people to use to balance the feminine and masculine qualities within themselves.
Great picture! What a metaphor!
The woman is the adventurous one, balancing on the track, while the man is being reduced to a co-dependent enabler.
And they´re so busy balancing their gender roles that they don´t see the train coming. 😎
well spotted, well said!
Grew up in a patriarchal family with strong woman role models, and I am grateful! Never have I felt oppressed, except by feminists who say they speak for me, and alter, and divide society! Not to mention, they destroy conventions which elevated me as a woman, such as having my door opened, or protection from thugs, or physical comfort, in exchange for all the hard work I barter for such things! It was bad enough when they were just burning bras, and wearing vaginas on their head, but now they are convincing perfectly decent men to emasculate themselves in some sort of bizarre self flagellation to please them! I say, let's go back to some sort of real world where we all appreciate one another for our various strengths, and stop pointing fingers, while complaining about how tortured our life is!
Some people call themselves feminists while they actually should make a separate club and change the name in to: We hate men. Because they shame real feminists who care for women's rights AND respect men and just want a place where everyone is equally appreciated and free to choose.
Great and amazing post sir.
The responsibility of men and women have equally balanced.
No one is greater than each other.
In every relationship balance is so important to maintain a healthy realtionship.
Women and men should be in a same team. They should give space to each other.
I completely agree with you sir.
Your post teaches a new lesson which people generally neglect.
Thanks @eco-alex sir for sharing this post.
Upvoted + resteemed your post.
You have spotted it right the balance between men and women.This will help the world to flourish.MATRIARCHY & PATRIARCHY i don't like any one of this two.Because in both of the word there is a sign of dominance.Only solution is equality that will help the society to be a peaceful one.Thanks for sharing this post with us.@upvoted
In my country there is no gender equality but i wished this gender equality should be implemented all over the world.
Your thinking is too good and i love your idea of ecotrain :)
You have a good thinking .I know one day this balance idea of men and women should be implemented :)
that's very helpful post!!
thank you..
thanks sir shearing the importance post upvote & resteemit done.
It's good to read a something that talks about the balance. Much of the time everyone seems to be at one side of the pendulum or the other, vilifying each end. Left wing/right wing, patriarchy/matriarchy. I'm forever thinking, what about the middle ground, where's the central path? We need that balance.
I do feel, however, that we can't just blame a system, because a system is mankind's creation.
The most important to understand is that each and every soul is composed with Masculine and Feminie energies, but the external factors have created a imbalance in these energies. If with our Yoga and other practices we are able to balance these energies we on the outer side also will be able to deal with and understand the masculine and feminine energies role in our lives. Every situation in life demands both of these energies. If we have an imbalance here it means there is an imbalance in our overall existence. It is sad but a reality that we human beings have been encoded with too many programs which work in the favour of negative forces but it is not impossible to break these chains provided one sets an intention to not be a part of this matrix.
I may be sounding a little off track but this is where the root problems. In my work of healing I see on the outer side the person has no problems but when I do a deep dive most of the problems come from corrupted programming of the Matrix.
The white light the healers claim is a false light of illusion unless one knows how to work with it one should not. The white light medittions further traps you.
You may be interested to know more about it from Cameron Day
Best wishes Nainaz
I want to be a part of that gentle revolution.