Yes, mama. That whole mentality of owning children is so bizarre. It drives me crazy too. Children have fewer human rights than any other group on the earth. I am reminded of the Kahlil Gibran poem On Children "Our children are not our own/ they are the product of life's longing for itself"
Far too many people have their own ego wrapped up in the lives of their children. So unfair because, like you said, no one made anyone have a child. If you want a child, you make a sacred contract to care for and nurture them. It's hard, but it's no sacrifice.
Beautifully said lovely mama. Khalil Gibran's poems are honestly really beautiful.
This is exactly what I mean. Yes you make tough calls but if it feels like a sacrifice, it is best not to do it instead of making your kids feel guilty about it.