In capitalism a man can be the biggest loser, some poor alcoholic, but as long as he has a wife to boss around, as long as he can play patriarch at home, the system provides him with some power over another human being, so he does not feel too bad about himself.
Also using women and children as a labour reserve army which can be employed at lower costs is always one of the capitalists´ favourites.
I do not believe that capitalism or communism really have anything to do with this type of behavior, it is something that must really be focused on the moral issue.
On the other hand, I do not believe in that dichotomy between patriarchy or matriarchy, the social structure is always the same and it is something that we can not change, it can take many different forms, but like a hive of bees or ants, human society has a hierarchical organization that repeats itself constantly.