I would submit to you that if a community can not provide for it's common defense then it is not a viable community at all.
Stanarchy has never, ever worked outside laboratory grade situations.
I actually prefer to work inside a system that functions to dreaming about one that doesn't.
So, rule by bully is acceptable to you?
https://listverse.com/2016/06/29/10-instances-of-anarchist-societies-that-actually-worked/
It is easier to embrace your slavery, especially if denial of it works for you.