Zizy, you are really doing it perfectly, keep it up.
To issue 1.
Staying in a relationship without a clear cut definition and direction is very detrimental to you as a lady, if maybe he is not financially ready but is clearly going to take your relationship further that is a different thing, but according to your write-up, it's four years and no defined direction, please think again.
Here is what you're to do:
Stop offering him sex often if you do before, if you are cohabiting or always at reach anytime anyhow, clear from his immediate reach but keep a good talking contact with him. With these developments he will seek to find out what the problem was if actually he is into you, but if he is not serious he will ignore those things which will eventually give both of you the space needed to kill the lust which existed before among two of you.
Beast you brother, I Adolf my coconut u just slayed the answer here.
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Wow👏👏👏👏👏 you guys are blasting my head with your wonderful inputs. @dubem-eu you just handled this issue so perfectly. Thank you so much. She says thank you.
You are welcome!
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U made massive sense Bro...
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