Love VS Used

in #esteem6 years ago

image
Pixabay Image

What does it mean to use someone?
Can someone truly use who he loves?
Or could it just be a lack of understanding?
I mean a lack of appreciation of the staggering differences
Of the stark differences in expectations, beliefs and inclinations?

One thing I have always appreciated is the reality of individualism.
The reality that we all are different and may not always view things from the other's point of view.
It is the understanding of this that makes me to always excuse people for their actions.
What if you become inexcusable?
Probably because you do not meet the expectation of your loved ones?
What do you do?
I mean you do not even know you have some expectations to meet.
There has never been a point they told you about these expectations.

Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups.
Yea, believe me, it is.
Whatever happened to communication or expression of feelings and expectations?
I think communication or expression of feelings is vital in every relationship.
Yea, you see, she may not know she is not meeting up with your expectations.
You may be craving for more than just phone calls or outings. May be for some holidays.
Tell her.
How dare you assume she knows.
Oh! She is now some sort of gods?

Relationships hit the rock for myraid of reasons.
Reasons as infinitesimal as not opening up.
Reasons as big as not having the means to take care of the other.
It is all about different strokes for different folks.
But then who made the rule we have to take care of someone in a relationship?
I thought it takes no wrong or sacrifices one made into account?
Now, what about the ensuing ACRIMONY?
accusation of being used.

I guess it is one of the vicissitudes of every human experience.