When my Son was small, I used to feel that when he will grow up then I will have nothing to worry about for him. When they are young there is schooling, grooming and being there for them all the time. Your whole life revolves around them, but as they start growing up you start having more time to yourself, but then it does not mean you are completely free. You will still be involved with them and be a part of their life. As a parent it comes very naturally that you tend to keep worrying for them and their every problem becomes your problem. That's a different thing that some time they would not want you to be part of their problem and you will not be able to detach from that.
When children grow up and become independent you do not have any physical task to do for them unless you are living in a joint family where you tend to take care of the home and their children. If you are living away from each other then you will be emotionally involved with them and if they are in trouble at any point of time it is very natural that as a parent you will also be losing your sleep.
My mom is 80 now and she still is a part of my life very much, I share everything with her and take her advice. If I am worried about any matter in my life that disturbs her also and the same goes down the line between me and my son. He shares everything with me and when things are not going right for him, I feel very disturbed. When our children have their children then we also get connected with them, we as parents like to be around them and do things for them, so even if it is not a must do thing but it kind of becomes a self taken responsibility.
I remember my mother-in-law was such a helping hand to me, she would take very good care of my son and because of that I could work tension free knowing that my son was in safe hands. She cooked food for us and when I would reach home from work, I did not have to bother about what to eat, food was ready served for me.
Especially in Indian families we are closely knit with each other and our emotional bonds are very strong, that is where we are just not able to let go off our children very easily. As parents we like to be a part of their lives and even children want their parents around them because of the culture that's already set in.
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This is so true. You think once they grow up, you’ll finally relax, but nope🤣 now you’re worrying about their jobs, relationships and even their kids. I believe parenting is a lifetime subscription with no cancel button until death do us part kind of thing
I agree with you, parenting is alive long work. My mom still worries about me and my kids
Well living in a joint family helps a lot, with everyone doing their smaller part. And most importantly the mental support is immense, no alternative of that.
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So true. It's a different kind of parenting in different stages of our children's lives. It will just go on forever in different degrees and manner, but they will always be our "little children" no matter what. 🥰
Very relatable, especially with my mom and myself. She worries more about me than I even worry about myself lol. I try to reciprocate it as much as I can also with the broader family, as in paying it forward :)