This made me think of a story my little boy had to read when we tried state homeschooling online. In the story, a boy needs help. He is told to look for an adult with a uniform like an officer, a doctor, nurse, or anyone who works at the school. Not once in the story is he told to go to his parents to help him! The indoctrination that parents are the enemy and government workers/teachers/counselors are the heroes starts young. My husband was an officer at the time and he was extremely offended by that book!
Also, my husband used to go on these CPS calls with the agents. Some children were rescued from horrible conditions and abuse. Roaches crawling from toddler's ears, newborns who were locked in rooms dying with no attention or food, abusive boyfriends who were shaking the babies...etc. Please know that there are good people out there too. These situations affect the officers deeply, as well as their families (he worked a case one time where a large snake was kept in a house and chewed/strangled to death a toddler...dark times at my house for quite a while...) There have to be officers who are willing to stand up for kids. Befriend them. Its the only way you'll win against these bad ones.
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Honestly I think in many cases we're dealing with several different groups of people when we're talking about authorities here: in one group are the vindictive, careless, thoughtless people who just automatically see themselves as free to do whatever they want. These people are drunk with power and react based on their gut - do they like someone or not? They like throwing their weight around and as a CPS worker they get a lot of weight to throw around.
There are also people honestly trying to do their job but get so inundated with the sights you describe that they can no longer trust any parent to be good (I knew a social worker like this).
There is a third group who not only helps but can clearly see the difference between abuse and non-abuse and they do not overuse the power they could access.
The trouble is the amount of power that's granted across the board regardless of what type of person the CPS worker is. We have no refuge from the rule of law but have to rely on the personality of the CPS worker and that's where all the trouble is coming in. It's like in a dictatorship - if you have a benevolent dictator, all is well. But if not, you have horror after horror.
So the solution is not to ignore the awful things like newborns locked in rooms dying, but to reform our system of law so it goes back to a system of law and does not just give more or less unrestricted power to people who may or may not use it wisely. Checks and balances. Refuge for the innocent.
Thank you to your husband for enduring these things and doing his best to help. I am so sorry both that these things exist and that he has those awful sights and sounds and events in his memory. Evil exists.