You are right. And....
The simple answer is you don't as a State or otherwise, predate upon your children and then use that as an excuse to predate upon them as an adult.
Doing so as a State guarantees your ruin. And this is where you are at in USA, since Police are involved in harming children.
And for the parental bond, nothing worse than allowing parents to harm their children, act as a State to compel the child victims to remain there, act as a State to partake in the abuse, and then later use the acts and crimes and the parents to exacerbate, pander, and otherwise manipulate further on the abuse etc.
Nothing worse as a child or adult, you get used to the predicament, than having no place to go.